TWYD #6: Straight men talking about having sex with other men

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Debby: I once knew a guy who would say he was straight but he’d also say that he would do Michael Jordan in a heartbeat. I don’t know that he meant that, but….part of me wonders. As such, I have to know: do straight guys have men in mind that they would potentially do? If so, are they disproportionately elite athletes and former James Bond actors?

Dick: I think that’s something a lot of men say, and some might actually mean, but when you really explore what they’re getting at, it doesn’t make much sense.  Put it this way…if you gave a dude the choice between f*cking a really ridiculously good looking girl once, but she was going to make absolutely no effort and basically hate the experience, or having consistent sex with a nice looking girl who went wild in bed and just loved getting off, I think most would take the latter. 

Debby: This is going where???

Dick: Well, now let’s swap Michael Jordan for the ridiculously good looking girl.  They are equivalent because in both cases it’s just about the story, not the experience. Maybe you’re star struck enough to get it up, but when the sex begins, you’re not doing what you would normally want to get off.  Why would you want that for any reason other than the story, and why would you want to go around telling people you did a guy in the butt if you’re straight? 

In his own words, Dick is a 27-year-old heterosexual college grad who works in TV and lives in New York.  He’s slept with approximately 15 women, most of whose names he can remember, but only a few of whom he’s ever had sex with more than once, and in full disclosure, one of them poured a beer on his head at a bar shortly after they got busy. He has two fantasy football teams, a two at a time netflix account, a used nissan, and a wardrobe consisting mostly of clothes from the Gap. He considers himself a decent pickup basketball player, better than average golfer, and is proud to have run a marathon in under 3:45.  Dick has an above average tolerance for alcohol, but realizes this could be a problem in the future.  He is curently dating someone, but if she ever read this that would probably change. He is by no means an expert in sex, love, or therapy.

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[Photo of Michael Jordan statue by wallyg, via Flickr/Creative Commons).

About Dr. Debby Herbenick

Dr. Debby Herbenick

Dr. Debby Herbenick is a sex researcher at Indiana University, sexual health educator at The Kinsey Institute, columnist, and author of five books about sex and love. Learn more about her work at www.sexualhealth.indiana.edu.