It’s just that I am, shall we say, in love with Modern Love.
I have what I’ve sometimes termed an unhealthy obsession with hearts, love, heartbreak, troubled times, relationships and sexuality. Except truth be told: I don’t actually think it’s unhealthy. Calling it “unhealthy” is just a superficial way of letting the naysayers think they’ve won and that, yes, I realize it’s a bit much.
Inside, I think it’s not only okay to dig deep into these stirrings of the heart and sexuality, but entirely useful: don’t people’s feelings of love, loss, acceptance and desire sometimes rule people’s lives? Should we not know more about these things?
Alas, there are many ways to “know” a topic. By day, I study love and sex. In an everyday way, I live it. And when I’m not, I’m trying to learn how other people experience love, sex, loss, relationships and so on. Hence, my feeling drawn to the NY Times’ Modern Love column which features a variety of writers on the topic of love.
Long intro aside, this week’s column – by writer Laura Munson – is about staying even in the midst of a long time husband saying he wants to go. Often people think that it’s leaving that’s the bigger risk – but sometimes, in spite of it all, the risk of staying and weathering the storm is a hard choice too. If you take the time to read it, I’d be curious as to your thoughts.