Living vicariously through a Kink.com porn party-goer

Someone I know recently attended a Kink.com party in San Francisco. Being a curious person, and having curious readers, I asked a few questions about the experience. Here’s what he had to say.

1. You said that you recently got to visit Kink.com for a party – was it at their offices? their film studio? What was the occasion?

I believe it’s both their primary offices and studio.  I know they do the majority of their filming there.  The building is pretty amazing, and well-known in San Francisco.  It’s called the San Francisco Armory and it was originally built as an armory and arsenal for the United States National Guard.  So, if you can imagine, it’s real bare bones, a lot of concrete and exposed wires and pipes and stuff, and perfect for the type of porn Kink shoots.  The party is a yearly event, I think, and is typically the final party of the Cybernet Expo that’s held in SF every year.

2. I think you said that there was going to be filming going on. What did you see?

Oh boy.  Yes, there was definitely filming.  To be honest, not my kind of porn, though.  We saw two different primary shoots.

a.       The first was pretty shocking and was essentially a two on two all-girl wrestling match, where points were scored by either performing a variety of sexual acts on one of the opposing girls or forcing one of the opposing chicks to do the same.  Sexual acts included: fingering, oral sex, strap on dildo anal and vaginal sex, hickeys, breast and nipple squeezing/playing, and everything in between.  This event was so outrageous because it the girls were so aggressive.  The girls were legitimately wrestling – tackling and throwing each other very hard, and the whole point was really to force your opponents to do this stuff as they did everything possible not to.   So this became girls looking like they were crying or yelling in pain, while their opponents forced themselves onto them.  Not my cup of tea.

b.      The second shoot was a bit more appealing, but still not my kind of porn.  Apparently, this is Kink’s bread and butter and why The Armory is such a perfect studio for them.  There was a real gothic feel.  Two girls, fully nude, standing on stumps back to back, strapped in with strips of leather all around their bodies.  There was one main dude that was there to dominate them, among other things.  Initially, this included a lot of whipping and putting vibrators up to them, but taking it away right before they would have an orgasm.  They got the crowd involved at this point.  The goal is to cause the girls some agony before allowing them to have an orgasm, so the guy (who was pretty large and unattractive btw) would get them close then ask the crowd, “is she allowed to cum?”  The crowd loved it.  Following the whipping and agonizing orgasms the girls gave the guy very, very aggressive BJs, where the guy spent more time slapping the girls in the face with his penis than he did getting head.

3. What were your reactions (e.g., excitement, discomfort, fear, disgust, interest)?

I was uncomfortable for most of it, with some interest and disgust peppered in.   I was also surprised, although it makes sense, just how business-like it is.  There’s so many people involved in the simplest shoot, which definitely takes away from the raw sexual activity you’re watching.

4. Any general impressions about the Kink.com line of films/images?

Just not my cup of tea.  I was more concerned about the girls well-being than I was with the sex they were having.

To learn more about Kink.com films, visit the Kink.com web site. If you’ve been to an interesting sex-related event (party, lecture, reading series, book event, art show) and would like to share, let me know by emailing me at drdebby@mysexprofessor.com.

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About Dr. Debby Herbenick

Dr. Debby Herbenick

Dr. Debby Herbenick is a sex researcher at Indiana University, sexual health educator at The Kinsey Institute, columnist, and author of five books about sex and love. Learn more about her work at www.sexualhealth.indiana.edu.