Seven Sex and Vagina Lessons from Sarah Silverman’s Twitter

In a country with very little sex education, I think it’s great that Sarah Silverman (who I follow on Twitter) is around to keep the masses educated. If you follow her @SarahKSilverman, you too can learn the following sorts of things about sex:

1. Vulvas are diverse in their beauty. They are also sometimes called “vaginas” by most people (including Sarah) and that’s probably okay. And while it’s possible that Sarah Silverman – who my Read My Lips: A Complete Guide to the Vagina and Vulva co-author and I once gave vulva-themed “muff”ins to * before her show at IU – may mean that her vagina (vaginal canal) has “off-beat good looks,” I think it’s a more likely scenario that she is referring to her vulva (the outside parts) in the following Tweet:

 

2. Some people like big, hairy men! The gays have a term for this (“bears”) but the straights do not, as SKS astutely points out. In one little Tweet, Sarah educates the masses about (1) language and sexual orientation and (2) bears. Keep in mind that Sarah Silverman used to date a famously big and hairy-looking man (Jimmy Kimmel).

 

3. Vaginas need to breathe! Here she could mean vagina or vulva. Either is true. But I wouldn’t necessarily recommend snipping out the crotch of one’s tights lest the tights possibly get a run in them. Instead, just wear tights on occasion and when they are awesome (I like SockDreams.com for buying tights).

 

4. Sex between men and women is pretty crazy when you stop and think about it. I mean, she’s right: penile-vaginal intercourse basically involves a man using his penis to “bash” into a woman’s vagina. Except instead of “bash” we often say “thrust.” Same difference though. This is likely one reason why our Indiana University research team found, in our National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior, that approximately 30% of women ages 18 to 59 reported at least some difficulty with pain during their most recent sexual experience (compared to only 5% of men reporting at least some difficulty with pain).

 

5. We all have a little sexual adventure in us. But some of our earlier-life adventures become a little hazy with age.

 

6. Masturbation is a common and healthy sexual behavior. And it can also help relieve sexual tension so that you don’t do things you might regret (e.g., like hook up with someone you don’t really want to or, as SKS suggests, so you don’t booty call an ex).

 

7. Women’s don’t need special “vagina washes” or other special vagina hygiene products to clean their vulvas (or vaginas, btw). Our genitals smell just fine the way they are.

 

*To be fair, we didn’t actually give the muffins to Sarah herself. We gave them to someone at the venue who brought them backstage. During the show, however, she and Tig (her opening act) referenced the muffins several times. We were thrilled as were our vaginas and vulvas.

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About Dr. Debby Herbenick

Dr. Debby Herbenick

Dr. Debby Herbenick is a sex researcher at Indiana University, sexual health educator at The Kinsey Institute, columnist, and author of five books about sex and love. Learn more about her work at www.sexualhealth.indiana.edu.