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Sex Toy Shopping Tip #4: Sex toys you can use with a partner

This article is Part 4 of a four-part series related to shopping for sex toys, such as vibrators. Make sure to read Part 1, Part 2 and Part 3 as well. Tip #4: Consider your partner. Not everyone who is interested in sex toys has a partner. And not everyone who has a partner, and who is interested in sex toys, wants to use their sex toy with their partner. Continue Reading →

Sex Toy Shopping Tip #3 relates to g spot, vaginal, rabbit vibrators – and more!

This post is part of a three-part series related to tips for shopping for sex toys (such as vibrators). Read Part 1 and Part 2, and make sure to check back next week for Part 4. Tip #3: Know where you’re going. 

When shopping for sex toys, it helps to know what exactly you want to do with it. Buying a Rabbit just because it was on Sex and the City is – as thousands of women have found out – perhaps not the best way to choose a toy. Instead, spend some time thinking about what you know about your body and, if you’re in one, your relationship as a means of figuring out what toy might work for you. Continue Reading →

Sex Toy Shopping Tip #2: Choosing vibrators that are more quiet than loud

This post is Part 2 of a four-part series on shopping for sex toys. If you haven’t already done so, read Part 1, and check back next week for Part 3. Tip #2: Know your (noise) limits. Everyone has their own comfort sound when it comes to sound. Some of us go full throttle with our iPods or televisions (in spite of the potential damage to our ear drums) while others keep the volume more moderate or quiet. Continue Reading →

Sex Toy Shopping Tip#1: Learn about materials sex toys are made with

Before most women shell out their hard-earned cash for a haircut or a fabulous dinner with even more fabulous wine, they’ve usually talked to their friends first or otherwise done their homework. For example, you’ve probably asked a friend of yours (whose hair you’ve long admired) where she gets her hair cut or colored and how much her stylist charges. And don’t even start with dinner – most likely, before you and your friends went all-out at your last chic affair, you perused online menus, asked friends for recommendations, or scanned online restaurant reviews to make sure your dinner would be well worth the cash. Yes? Yet, given how hush-hush many women are about their self-pleasuring, there is very little sex toy advice being shared among friends. Continue Reading →

MSP Book Review: The Many Joys of Sex Toys by Anne Semans

Regular readers of MSP and the sex columns I write for Kinsey Confidential, Time Out Chicago, Men’s Health, Velocity and Cheeky Chicago may recall how much I like – or at least how often I’ve recommended – The Good Vibrations Guide to Sex. I even wrote a review of it for MSP more than a year ago. I’ve recommended it for years and for a variety of issues including learning to communicate about sex, to explore/diversity one’s sex life, and to learn about sex toys, too. Perhaps it is no surprise, then, that I would also be a fan of The Many Joys of Sex Toys, a book written by one of the Good Vibe’s co-authors, Anne Semans. As the book was published in 2004, it doesn’t include all of the latest, greatest toys – but that’s what the internet is for: to complement hardcover reading with information about even more toy options. Continue Reading →

MSP Sex Q&A: Why is it so hard for women to have orgasms during sex?

Question: Why is it so darn hard for me to have an orgasm during sex? Is that normal?  
Answer: It is completely common for it to be difficult for a woman to orgasm during intercourse. In fact, it is often far easier for women to orgasm from direct clitoral stimulation, such as occurs during cunnilingus (oral sex performed on a woman), masturbation (solo or with a partner) or vibrator use. There is no one way to experience pleasure during sex; neither is there one “standard” path to orgasm. Continue Reading →

Vibrator Review #4: The We-Vibe Sex Toy for Couples

Whew! Yet another review of the We-Vibe. If you’ve tried the We-Vibe or any other sex toy you’d like to review, give me a holler at Read previous reviews here. You can learn more about the We-Vibe from Babeland. Here’s the review from a (male) MSP reader:
The We Vibe is a very intriguing sex toy, due to its unique capabilities.  When I first heard of what it can do I was very "excited" to experiment with my girlfriend.  I found the We Vibe to be extremely satisfying, but only in certain positions.  I feel it is very limited in the amount of sex positions it can be used with. 
The two positions that work best for my girlfriend and I were Doggy style (Both standing Doggy style and on our knees) and the Standing Missionary position (I’m standing and my girlfriend at the edge of the bed or table).  The sensation of feeling a vibration while inside was very new, and very satisfying at the same time.  I also noticed that my girlfriend really liked when I pressed down on the outside portion of the We Vibe during the Standing Missionary position.  We have had the We Vibe for about 3 or 4 months now and really enjoy every time we use it.  We have never had an issues or problems, and it easy to clean.  Overall I would give the We Vibe 4 out 5 stars. Continue Reading →

Vibrator Review #3: We-Vibe Sex Toy for Couples

If you’re a regular MSP reader, you may remember that I posted a review of the We-Vibe sex toy for couples earlier this summer. Then several days ago, I posted another review of the We-Vibe that was sent to me by one of the lucky MSP readers who tried it out with her partner. Here is yet another review (btw, if you would like to share reviews or comments of any sex toys that you’ve used – we-vibe or not – send them to me; I’d love to read them and post anonymously). To learn more about the We-Vibe, visit their web site or buy one through Babeland (their North American distributor). Here goes:
I like the wevibe but some positions work better than others. Continue Reading →

Review #2 of the We-Vibe Couples Sex Toy

You may remember that several months ago I posted an overall review of the We-Vibe couples sex toy. Well, Babeland (the exclusive North American distributor of the We-Vibe) was kind enough to share a few extras with me so that I could give them to various couples and learn more about how women and men feel about the We-Vibe. Curious? I was too. Here is one review… Continue Reading →