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Must #2 for Great Sex: Get What You Need

Last week, I introduced my “Must #1 for Great Sex.” In this 2nd “must”, you might be thinking that I’m referring to orgasm – and for those of you who really want an orgasm, that may be it. However, I’m talking about “needs” more broadly, encouraging you to get what you need in order to feel comfortable and good about having sex with a particular person at a particular time. This is not license to be ultra picky and demanding; rather, it’s an invitation to you to consider what you really need (not “want” – but need) in order to feel good. After all, in order to have pleasurable, yummy sex, one often needs to feel relaxed and comfortable with their sex partner and the situation. Continue Reading →

MUST#1 for Great Sex: Let go of messed-up ideas about sex

At some point in their lives, most people have heard (or even believed) at least one of the following:
• ”Have sex on the 3rd date.” • ”Women shouldn’t initiate.” • ”Lube is for old people.” • ”Vibrators make it harder to orgasm the old-fashioned way.” And yet who makes these rules and ideas up? Continue Reading →

How can you learn to perform oral sex on a guy without gagging?

Question: How can you learn to perform oral sex on a guy without gagging? Answer: While not all women and men who perform oral sex on men get to The Point of No Gagging, many people find that there is some room for improvement. Fellatio (oral sex performed on a man) can often become less gag-inducing over time. How so? Well, some people simply find that – as with many things – fellatio becomes easier with practice. Continue Reading →

Coital Alignment Technique (one of the best sex positions!)

This week on Cheeky Chicago, you can find me talking about one of the most well-researched sex positions of all time: the Coital Alignment Technique (CAT) - which, among male-female couples, has been found to be an easier sex position for some women to reach orgasm in. Is it perfect? No. Will all women who try CAT have an orgasm? Of course not! Continue Reading →