Sexual Orientation

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Bisexuality Explained

This Youtube video briefly but brilliantly says what bisexuality is and what it is not. It is simply being attracted to both men and women. It is not anything more than that. That’s it. When someone who identifies as bisexual ends up in a relationship with a man or a woman, she or he is not selling out or giving up or picking men over women or vice versa; they simply happened to choose to love that individual. Continue Reading →

BDSM As A Sexual Orientation

The idea of sexual orientation is a complicated one. There’s a certain comfort in believing that you’re “hard-wired” to be a certain way, especially for minority or stigmatized groups who can justifiably say, why would I choose this given how hard it is to be this way? I think this also connects to how in the Western world, identity is seen as something stable and intrinsic; yeah, people will change over time, but you are who  you are at your very core and you were probably born that way. Sex activist Clarisse Thorn has promulgated the idea that BDSM (a configuration of activities including bondage and domination, sadism and masochism, domination and submission) is a sexual orientation. This may seem strange at first, especially if you’re used to hearing that being gay or straight is a sexual orientation. Continue Reading →

Understanding Asexuality

This blog post on asexuality offers an interesting view from the inside, defining asexuality as a lack of sexual attraction, stating: “Asexual people do not, generally, experience sexual attraction.” The blogger emphasizes the diversity of the asexual community, describing some of the ways in which asexuals interact with various sexual communities. It’s worth a read, as it gives a glimpse into a lesser-known, misunderstood sexual identity. Follow us on Twitter @mysexprofessor. Follow Jeana, the author of this post, @foxyfolklorist. Continue Reading →

Bisexuals Love Puns – and Bi the Way, A Few Myths

As someone with a large amount of bisexual friends and also as a sex educator, I’ve heard so many myths about bisexual individuals (amongst other entertaining rumors!). AlterNet writer Anna Pulley recently wrote about 9 Stupid Myths About Bisexuals That Will Make You Laugh and it definitely had me giggling in more than one place. Continue Reading →

TWYD #6: Straight men talking about having sex with other men

Debby: I once knew a guy who would say he was straight but he’d also say that he would do Michael Jordan in a heartbeat. I don’t know that he meant that, but….part of me wonders. As such, I have to know: do straight guys have men in mind that they would potentially do? If so, are they disproportionately elite athletes and former James Bond actors? Dick: I think that’s something a lot of men say, and some might actually mean, but when you really explore what they’re getting at, it doesn’t make much sense.  Put it this way…if you gave a dude the choice between f*cking a really ridiculously good looking girl once, but she was going to make absolutely no effort and basically hate the experience, or having consistent sex with a nice looking girl who went wild in bed and just loved getting off, I think most would take the latter. 

Debby: This is going where??? Continue Reading →