sexual identity

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BDSM As A Sexual Orientation

The idea of sexual orientation is a complicated one. There’s a certain comfort in believing that you’re “hard-wired” to be a certain way, especially for minority or stigmatized groups who can justifiably say, why would I choose this given how hard it is to be this way? I think this also connects to how in the Western world, identity is seen as something stable and intrinsic; yeah, people will change over time, but you are who  you are at your very core and you were probably born that way. Sex activist Clarisse Thorn has promulgated the idea that BDSM (a configuration of activities including bondage and domination, sadism and masochism, domination and submission) is a sexual orientation. This may seem strange at first, especially if you’re used to hearing that being gay or straight is a sexual orientation. Continue Reading →

A Bisexual Manifesto

This bisexual manifesto says it all: why, even if people who identify as bisexual don’t conform to expected behaviors or stereotypes, their sexual identities are still valid and to be respected. Thanks to @DavidForbes for the link. Follow us on Twitter @mysexprofessor. Follow Jeana, the author of this post, @foxyfolklorist. Continue Reading →

Lesbian Identities In Pakistan

A recent NPR piece about lesbians in Pakistan provides a sobering look at how alternative sexualities are regarded in other parts of the world. As one of the interviewees says, “in our society, women don’t have sexual needs, desires, drives, whatever.” People won’t generally assume that two women holding hands or living together are sexually involved, so in one sense lesbian identities fly under the radar–but lesbians also lack recognition, and must live their lives silently and secretly. Continue Reading →