There has been plenty written about Fifty Shades of Grey’s meteoric rise to the top of the bestseller list. Articles have documented how the book has enlivened marriages, criticised it for its depiction of the BDSM scene, and debated whether or not the book’s popularity reflects a glut of closeted submissives. My personal favorite was the TMZ post about how the book is influencing dramatic increases in SmartBalls sales. Admittedly, there are plenty of problematic things about this book, from the Twilight-esque I-stalk-you-because-I-love-you theme to the bordering-on-mediocre prose, but there are several facets of the phenomenon that my sex educator brain considers to be positive. 1. Continue Reading →
Check out Menaga Miss’ music video “Hard Driving Me Crazy”
This is the hetero tech guys’ erotic dream â€“ the cam girl who dresses up as Leeloo and Lara Croft (AND some leather suited robot-dancing lady â€“ Aeon Flux?) and then leaps out of the monitor for some F2F sexy time. Thanks, Menaga Miss, for including so many computer puns. One of my favorites is “gigabyte me all night long.” Enjoy the nerdiness. Learn about MSP posts as they happen by following us on Twitter @mysexprofessor. You can also follow Craig VanKempen, the author of this post, @craigvk and make friends with us on Facebook. Photo thanks to Reverbnation.
Men often get the credit for being “visual creatures” but many women enjoy a good visual, too. Whether the sexual images you’re thinking of are porn or in your head, they can spur your imagination, trigger arousal, and create excitement for you (which, in turn, can create excitement for your partner, too). Consider these tips to explore the power of your sexual fantasies: Continue Reading →
Sex therapists have long found that a lovely thing about sexual fantasies is that they can be used to increase desire. This is particularly valuable for women and men who feel as though they need a little extra oomph to get themselves to feel as sexually interested as they once did in their partner. Others have plenty of desire (and then some to spare) and simply enjoy sexual fantasies for the value they add to their real or imagined, and solitary or partnered, sex lives. Consider, for example, imagining in great detail what it would feel like to: Continue Reading →
When many people think about sexual fantasies, they think of fantasies involving sex. Perhaps because the phrase goes like this: “sexual.. fantasies”. (Duh). But is it a duh moment really? Continue Reading →