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Enough pre-ejaculate (pre cum) to soak through clothes

Men vary in the amount of pre-ejaculate (precum) that they produce. Some seem to make very little and it may or may not visibly release from a man’s urethra at the tip of his penis when he’s feeling sexually aroused. Other men definitely notice a fair amount of pre-ejaculate and it’s not unusual for a man’s pre-ejaculate to soak through his underwear. However, it’s less common for men to produce so much pre-ejaculate that it soaks through several layers of clothing. And yet, in my 10+ years of working as a sexuality educator and researcher, I’ve spoken with several men who emit so much pre-ejaculate during sexual arousal that they may wear extra layers or underwear or clothing to prevent their dates from noticing their “wetness.” Continue Reading →

Multiple Orgasms for Women and Men: What You MUST Know

Although a few men have been found to be able to ejaculate repeatedly in a row, most men cannot have multiple orgasms*. For reasons not well understood by scientists, men have what’s called a refractory period – the time between a man’s last ejaculation and his ability have another one. Women, on the other hand, sometimes find that they can experience multiple orgasm (the ability to have one orgasm after another, without losing sexual arousal). These orgasms may be separated by seconds or by several minutes. They may be of a similar intensity or level of pleasure or they may differ (and no, the second or third is not always better or worse than the first; there’s no real order or hierarchy to multiple orgasms). Continue Reading →