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Chicago Tonight and General Sex Round Up

If you’re in Chicago tonight, make sure to come out for the 2nd – and last – performance of Literally Sexy 2: Because It Feels Good, a fun, sexy, smart, entertaining, musical (need I say more) sex variety show that I’m a part of. Doors open at 9:30pm so you can enjoy (affordable) drinks before the show starts at 10:30pm. It’s at Victory Gardens Biograph theatre. Tickets are $20 or $15 with the code word “JUICE” – learn more here. In this week’s In&Out column, I responded to questions from a guy dealing with noisy-sex neighbors, a woman who is avoiding sex for fear of getting herpes, and a woman whose girlfriend cheats with other men which now makes her fantasize about having sex with other men. Continue Reading →

Recent sex column round-ups

- In Velocity, check out my responses to a guy who was wondering whether he should get his booty-calling-ex a holiday gift and to a woman whose boyfriend wants her to grow her nails long so she can scratch his back (yes, in that way) – that Dec 31 column can be found on the Velocity web site

- Also in Velocity, last week’s column brought us questions from one reader who asked me for ways to re-ignite his relationship following a two-week dry spell and another reader who was bothered by her husband’s use of porn

- In Time Out Chicago, last week my weekly In&Out column heard from a male reader who wondered to what extent his penis size might be contributing to his seeming lack of luck in getting his exes to orgasm, an 18 year old female reader who experienced some bleeding after sex (well, technically after fingering) and was wondering about that, and a male reader who was looking for a way to speed up his girlfriend’s orgasm (the fact that he was spraying lidocaine on his penis in order to last longer was a challenging issue in and of itself – yikes! not a good idea, folks). – In this week’s Time Out Chicago, there are even more interesting questions from readers! Take, for example, the woman who asked how to improve her odds of orgasm given the religious guilt she experiences in regard to masturbation, another woman who wondered about whether it was safe for women to take birth control pills for years on end (and whether there was a pill for men), and a 30-ish guy whose fear of germs has kept him from having sex or getting into the relationship he very much wants. Read the column here. Continue Reading →

This week’s TOC: how to give a woman an orgasm, penis size, vaginal bleeding, and quicker orgasms

Check out my weekly In&Out sex column in Time Out Chicago, where I talk about issues related to men’s penis size and its relation to women having orgasms, vaginal discharge from fingering, and how to get a woman to go from taking about 90 minutes to orgasm to just under five (or so). Read the column on TOC’s web site. Continue Reading →

This week’s sex column in Time Out Chicago: anal douching, genital warts and prostate infections

If you haven’t yet read by weekly In&Out column in Time Out Chicago, what are you waiting for? How else are you going to learn about douching before anal sex, what to do when you spot a potential genital wart on your partner’s body during oral sex, or issues related to sex toys and prostate infections? Read my sex column on TOC’s web site. Continue Reading →

Fleshbot’s Best of Sex Advice Section: Guess Who?

For the second time in recent memory, Fleshbot has given a shout-out to my In&Out sex column (which appears in Time Out Chicago) in their Best of Sex Advice feature - this time, referencing a column in which a reader asked for information about improving sex quickies. Someone posted a comment on Fleshbot that said “if a person can’t have a quickie, then no advice column is going to help” but I disagree! Some folks – believe it or not – simply haven’t heard of lube, which can work wonders if you don’t have time to get all wet and slathery on your own. Other folks don’t keep condoms on hand or they try awkward positions or they think you must have intercourse in order to have a satisfying but quick sexual encounter. Not so – as I point out in TOC 135. Continue Reading →