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Liking Sex Doesn’t Make You a Slut

That’s right ladies, you read me correctly: You can still be crazy about sex and have a good reputation. I know this may seem like a huge shocker—but after reading Chris Jones’ latest piece in Esquire (titled, Ladies: You’re Not as Good as You Think), I feel so much more enlightened on how to be good in bed—I feel as if I could teach a college course on it. So to share my newfound knowledge on what makes women the ultimate hook-up , let me give you the breakdown on the top five lessons I learned from CJ. Continue Reading →

Ways To Enhance Sex Play For Cheap

I’ll let you in on a little secret. Products made specifically for sex are sold at much higher profit margins than similar items sold for non-sexy purposes. It seems that the sex industry has decided that we’re willing to pay top dollar for products that are supposed to fill our sex lives with passion and lust. And while I’m willing to pay more money for high quality dildos and vibrators, other items can be obtained elsewhere for a fraction of the price. Say you want to nibble something tasty off of your sweetheart. Continue Reading →

How to Make Love: Five Tips for Better Sex

In the past two weeks, I’ve written about two types of sex that MSP readers might want to try: Passionate Crazy Sex and Lazy Day in Bed Sex (tips for each were included in their respective posts). So what gets my vote this week? None other than Making Sweet Romance. Although few young women and men mouth the term “make love” (at least publicly) without at least a little discomfort, the fact is that most women and men want to feel as though the physical act of sex is connected to an emotional experience of love. Okay, so this isn’t true every single time you have sex nor is it true with every partner, but certainly it’s something many of us crave here and there, right? Continue Reading →

Sex that lasts a long time (as in, all afternoon?)

Last week, I wrote about four types of sex that everyone might want to consider giving a try, beginning with a few tips about having Passionate Crazy Sex.  This week my focus is on Lazy Day in Bed Sex. Although lazy days in bed are perhaps easier to come by when you’re in college or grad school (after all, you’re not going to get fired or lose a pay check if you’re late to class or skip one altogether in favor of a romp in the sack), even adults with jobs and/or kids can spare an occasional day to relish in bed. It’s called a “Personal Day.” Why do I rank this type of sex so high? Because intimacy is important – and although setting aside 15 or 30 minutes for sex makes sense most of the year, every now and then we can all benefit from a reminder than while sex isn’t everything, it is indeed something special to many of us. Continue Reading →

What can I do to get my libido back? Should I fake it?

Question:
I have three children under the age of 6 and by the time it gets to be night and the kids are in bed, the last thing I want to do is have sex with my husband. What can I do to feel more in the mood or get my libido back? Or do you think I should just fake it? Answer:
No matter how wonderful women’s relationships are, it’s a fact that women often bear more than their fair share of household chores and childcare responsibilities. Even when couples are able to share the load 50/50, it’s a lot to expect desire to thrive when one has spent the past 14 hours packing lunches, changing diapers, or dropping everything to comfort a crying child. Continue Reading →

Friday Sex Round-Up

Another Friday, another weekend to get excited about. And for me, another sex conference to start packing for. Next week I’m off to Arizona for the annual meeting of the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors and Therapists. Until then, here’s what’s been going on this week in sex:

In my weekly In&Out sex column in Time Out Chicago magazine, you can find me answering questions about penile pain during sex following adult circumcision, inhibited ejaculation (why a guy can’t come during sex), and uncomfortable feelings of numbness during sex. Read the full column on the TOC web site. Continue Reading →

How to have an orgasm during sex

Question:
I’m 27 and never have I ever had an orgasm during sex – but it’s not for a lack of trying. What can I do? Answer:
Many women haven’t had orgasms during intercourse and many, like you, wonder why. In my work as a sex researcher, educator and columnist, I have literally heard from thousands of women who –in the absence of orgasm – wonder if there is something wrong with them or their bodies. What we don’t hear enough, however, is that what keeps women from having orgasms more often than not are feeling pressured and not having accurate information about one’s body. Continue Reading →

How to have passionate, crazy sex (regardless of Granny Panties!)

 

It’s been said that there are certain types of men or women that everyone should date at least once in their lives. As someone who studies sex, I believe there are at least four types of sex that women and men who are interested in sex (which is most of us) should consider experiencing – even if just once. The first? Passionate Crazy Sex

This may be the most obvious, but it can also be one of the most fun. After all, by definition this type of sex is exhuberantly passionate. Continue Reading →

Semen in the Eye: Is It Dangerous? What Should I Do if I Get Sperm in my Eye?

There you are, performing oral sex on your boyfriend, husband or what’s-his-name and you start to feel that he’s about to come. Maybe, if he’s particularly kind, he even warns you with an “I’m gonna come.” Then, in spite of the fact that he promised not to get it in your eye if you let him come on your face or neck, whoosh! There it goes. Semen lands in your eye. Continue Reading →

Multiple Orgasms for Women and Men: What You MUST Know

Although a few men have been found to be able to ejaculate repeatedly in a row, most men cannot have multiple orgasms*. For reasons not well understood by scientists, men have what’s called a refractory period – the time between a man’s last ejaculation and his ability have another one. Women, on the other hand, sometimes find that they can experience multiple orgasm (the ability to have one orgasm after another, without losing sexual arousal). These orgasms may be separated by seconds or by several minutes. They may be of a similar intensity or level of pleasure or they may differ (and no, the second or third is not always better or worse than the first; there’s no real order or hierarchy to multiple orgasms). Continue Reading →