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Sex Scenes From Paranormal Romance

Whether or not you’re a fan of reading paranormal romance like the Sookie Stackhouse books, this excerpt round-up contains hilarious quotes from sex scenes written in that genre (no pics, so it’s SFW). I think my favorite is “His man lance prepared for duty.” Follow us on Twitter @mysexprofessor. Follow Jeana, the author of this post,@foxyfolklorist. Continue Reading →

The Perfect Fairy Tale Kiss

As my colleague, fellow folklorist Linda J. Lee, discusses in her post on “True Love’s Kiss,” the kiss as awakening and  transformation motif in fairy tales has a long and less-known history. From early versions of “Sleeping Beauty” to “The Frog Prince,” fairy tale kisses are tied up with violence and sexuality in a way that would make a Disney heroine blush. This is yet another reminder that fairy tales were not originally intended for children, so their shift in audience has seen accompanying changes in content. Follow us on Twitter @mysexprofessor. Follow Jeana, the author of this post, @foxyfolklorist. Continue Reading →

A Novel Take On Romance

Why We Need Romance Novels is a bold essay that situates romance novels within a sexist culture that more often than not punishes women for being sexually active or adventurous. The author argues that romances do not, overall, tend to subvert the existing paradigm, but rather, they do the important work of showing “a possible world within our paradigm, one in which women are able to seek sexual satisfaction with a trustworthy partner without fear.” Removing fear from exploring one’s sexuality tends to be a good thing, whether it happens through literature or better education. Thanks to @Teleidoplex for the link. Follow us on Twitter @mysexprofessor. Continue Reading →

Exploring Links Between Romance Novels And Porn

According to a Christian psychologist, romance novels can cause emotional addictions in women, leading to unbalanced behavior and losing touch with reality. Apparently, romance novels function for women just like porn functions for men, creating unrealistic fantasies that becoming addicting, while promoting dissatisfaction with one’s real relationships. Fans of the romance genre are protesting this view as one-sided, claiming that romance novels validate women’s emotional experiences and provide imaginative ways for women to explore what different kinds of relationships might be like. The fans, along with Salon writer Tracy Clark-Flory, assert that readers of romances are, indeed, intelligent enough to tell the difference between fantasy and reality. Like any other literary or film genre, romances contain stock plots and stereotyped characters; and, like any other genre, there is a pretty obvious line where the stories depart from reality. Continue Reading →

10 Love Songs to Fall in Love By

To follow up on the 10 sad love songs post I recently put together, I thought it only fair to assemble 10 love songs that may inspire happiness and joy in your heart of hearts – perhaps especially if you’re in the midst of falling in love. Of course, happiness and certain love songs aren’t always good for the long haul. Often, love songs become happy and magical when you’re in love, or falling in love, with a particular person. They become part of a soundtrack of your relationship. Every time you hear the song, you think about how you’re falling in love or how happy you feel with that person. Continue Reading →

When The Honeymoon Is Over: My Relationship With Australia

Recently, I’ve been giving some thought to the concept of “limerence.” Even if most of us have never heard the term, we know the feeling: that all-encompassing, giddy, preoccupation of falling in love. I’ve discovered that my experience of moving to Australia parallels this stage of many new relationships. For some people, this stage lasts for months, even years, and for others it changes as fast as the weather in Melbourne. I remember during the first month I was here, it had been beautiful and sunny as I went into a restaurant to meet some new friends. Continue Reading →

MSP Sex Q&A: How can we spice up our sex life?

Question: My girlfriend and I are both 22 but we have a pretty routine/boring sex life. How can we spice it up? Answer: Don’t give up! There is no reason that 22 should be as good as it gets. Whenever I hear someone of any age – but especially someone in their 20s or 30s – say that their sex life has hit a stand still, I usually ask if they and they partner talk about sex during times when they’re not already having it. Continue Reading →

MSP Holiday Gift Idea #4: A Storypeople Print!

Though I’ve suggested Storypeople prints and art objects in the past, I’ll do so again because I’ve heard from plenty of readers how they appreciated the suggestion and ended up discovering artist and storyteller Brian Andreas’ beautiful words and art, and ultimately purchased a print or other piece. So here we go again. This time, I’ll feature a print that I have come to really enjoy. It’s called Partners and the story goes like this: tied together by stuff too difficult to explain to someone new. That’s always a tough part about ending a relationship, isn’t it? Continue Reading →