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MSP Quote of the Day… someone you know

“It’s sad when someone you know becomes someone you knew.” – Henry Rollins
Now THAT is a heartbreaker, isn’t it? When someone you used to know every particle of becomes someone you wouldn’t really recognize. Sure, maybe you would recognize them by sight – but no longer by the way they feel or what they fear or what they want to do with their lives. Once I was on the phone with someone I had dated in high school. When we were in high school, he wanted to be a veterinarian. Continue Reading →

MSP Quote of the Day: “Down there never looked so… cuddly”

It harkens back to when I was on the Tyra Banks Show last Fall. From the Mom Logic blog:
"Sex researcher Dr. Debby Herbenick pops by Tyra today to chat about women and their "hoo-ha." And quite frankly, "down there" never looked, well, so cuddly. Tyra begins the hour by giving her audience a test to see if they can name all the parts of the vagina with unbelievable results: 89 percent of her audience filled out the anatomical chart incorrectly. In related news, 89 percent of our husbands don’t know what to do with those parts anyway. "
Visit her blog here. Continue Reading →

Is casual sex a cure for so-called “love addiction”?

First, I’m not a fan of the phrase "love addiction" (it’s really a popular media term for a clinically recognized pattern of when someone gets into multiple love relationships – and is sort of hooked on the feelings, highs and dramas related to falling in love – and it becomes a distressing or maladaptive pattern for them). But I am trying not to get too much into semantics here and instead just accept Alanis Morissette’s quote for what it is – which is to say that she apparently feels that she found herself always committing to men – one after another – and this got her into a pattern that didn’t work for her. So she decided that for one year, she would only date casually. And by "date", she means that this dating included "lots of sex". More and more it seems that women celebrities are becoming comfortable (well, is it comfort? Continue Reading →

MSP Quote of the Day

"I subscribed to Netflix a few weeks ago. I’m on my third DVD, which is the second one that’s too scratched to play. They have a good “send back your scratched discs!” policy. But I don’t care because it’s only once a week that I find time to settle down and watch a video, and if it gets interrupted, I’ll turn it off and go do something else. I feel like I’m an old married man with E.D." – Jakob Lodwick, on his tumblr Continue Reading →

MSP Quote of the Day

"If you have it [Love], you don’t need to have anything else, and if you don’t have it, it doesn’t matter much what else you have." – Sir James M. Barrie

Once I came to feel that someone who I thought loved  me didn’t really love me after all… or at least not in the way that  mattered to me. His love had been dishonest and more self-involved than I wanted, a love that seemed was for his sake rather than ours. A few days after we broke up, I had to give a big talk at an event – me being billed as the "sex expert", the person who was supposed to know so much about love and sex and relationships. 

I remember showing up to give the talk, with people walking up to me to say that they always read my sex advice columns, someone even asked for an autograph (which shocked me), and they remembered me from another event, and congratulated me on certain recent successes and such, and generally people seemed to think that I had it all. Or at least that I had quite a lot going for me. However, inside I felt sad and despondent and like I had nothing… even though the break-up was a good thing. Continue Reading →

MSP Quote of the Day

"We only regard those unions as real examples of love and real marriages in which a fixed and unalterable decision has been taken. If men or women contemplate an escape, they do not collect all their powers for the task. In none of the serious and important tasks of life do we arrange such a "getaway." We cannot love and be limited." – Alfred Adler Continue Reading →