premature ejaculation

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The Sex Superpower of Forgiveness

A fun game to play with others while waiting for a bus, riding a train or sitting around after dinner is the superpower game – as in, if you could have one superpower, what would it be? Often, people say they’d like to fly, to have x-ray vision or to be invisible. These are all well and good for people who want to be super at fighting crime, but what do they do for sex and love aside from having sex in mid-air (flying), spoiling the surprise (x-ray vision) or being a voyeur in someone else’s bedroom (invisibility). This got me thinking about what superpowers might make for better sex – and what we can learn from them. Continue Reading →

How to last longer during sex: Do cock rings work?

Having worked in the field of sexuality research and education for more than 10 years, an enormous number of men have asked me questions about how to last longer during sexual intercourse (usually, vaginal intercourse). Some of these men find it difficult to last more than 30 seconds or a minute or two no matter what they try and their situation would likely fit the description of what some call “premature ejaculation” or “rapid ejaculation”. Other times, men may believe that they aren’t lasting long enough during sex when, in fact, they are lasting a fair amount of time – say, 10 or 15 minutes during intercourse – before they ejaculate or orgasm (ejaculation and orgasm are not one in the same, by the way, though usually they coincide, so for the sake of this post we’ll treat them as occurring at the same time). Stop-start and squeeze techniques (first practiced during masturbation, then sometimes carried over into partnered sex) are commonly recommended to men who wish to learn to delay their ejaculation (last longer during sex). Some research in recent years suggest that, for some men, there may be an inherited/genetic propensity toward premature ejaculation. Continue Reading →

MSP Q&A: How can I last long enough to satisfy my wife of 24 years?

Question: Is it possible for a man to learn to control his orgasm? After 24 years of marriage I am still not able to always satisfy my wife. This partially due to the fact that my wife does not like much foreplay or oral sex and we do not have take often anyway. She wants me to last long enough for her orgasm only which is not always possible for me. Since we only make love in the missionary position, changing positions is not an option. Continue Reading →

Can yoga help premature ejaculation?

I just read a study that compared the effectiveness of two treatments for premature ejaculation (PE; also called “rapid ejaculation”): an anti-depressant (which some docs have been prescribing for PE over the past few years) or yoga. Seriously. And guess what? Both groups showed significant improvement in their PE. If this doesn’t drive more men to yoga classes, I’m not sure what else will. Continue Reading →