Polyamory

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Polyamory Resources

I’ve been doing a lot of thinking and research around non-monogamy and polyamory lately, and wanted to share a few books and resources I’ve found. First, I found this wonderful resource, which is akin to an FAQ for people who are considering polyamory.  It’s written by Match.com, so I don’t know if there’s an ulterior motive, but it seems like a very useful resource for people who are questioning their mono-centric culture. Next, my Facebook friend posted this fascinating visual representing the different types of non-monogamy.  Because I appreciate visual representations of data, I really enjoyed thinking about all the different intersections that this explored.  For those who are confused, it is really like a mutant Venn diagram with many different overlaps. Continue Reading →

Romantic Love, Marital Monogamy, And Swinging

I was lucky enough to attend a lecture at the Kinsey Institute recently, titled “The Tyranny of Two: Are Love and Non-Monogamy Incompatible?” by Curtis R. Bergstrand. What follows is a summary of my hastily-penned notes, which I think are interesting regardless of one’s engagement in swinging, and which are also mostly a plug for Bergstrand’s book Swinging in America: Love, Sex, and Marriage in the 21st Century (because we only really skimmed the surface of Bergstrand’s research in the presentation, and I definitely wanted to know more by the end!). Continue Reading →

How to make Open Relationships Work

In most cultures, people claim to practice monogamy. Lifetime monogamy (being involved with only one person for one’s entire life) is rare. Serial monogamy (having a series of exclusive relationships over one’s life) is more common. And while we talk an awful lot in our culture about cheating – that is, having sex with people outside of monogamous relationships – we talk a whole lot less about open relationships or polyamory, the practice of having “many lovers”. That doesn’t mean that men and women aren’t having open relationships, though – it just means many people are silent about them. Continue Reading →

MSP Sex Q&A: What are polyamorous relationships like? Can they work?

Question: What are polyamorous relationships like? Can they work? Answer: Strictly speaking, polyamory refers to the practice of having “several lovers”. In practice, people use this term to describe a variety of different sexual and romantic relationship structures including open relationships between two people (in which it is understood that one or both partners may sometimes be sexual with others), swinging, tribes or circles (two terms sometimes used to refer to groups of people who may be sexual with each other, either at the same time or in coupled situations) and other types of structures. Human beings are creative and, as such, there are numerous ways that they may experience openness in their sexual and romantic relationships. Continue Reading →