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Romantic Love, Marital Monogamy, And Swinging

I was lucky enough to attend a lecture at the Kinsey Institute recently, titled “The Tyranny of Two: Are Love and Non-Monogamy Incompatible?” by Curtis R. Bergstrand. What follows is a summary of my hastily-penned notes, which I think are interesting regardless of one’s engagement in swinging, and which are also mostly a plug for Bergstrand’s book Swinging in America: Love, Sex, and Marriage in the 21st Century (because we only really skimmed the surface of Bergstrand’s research in the presentation, and I definitely wanted to know more by the end!). Continue Reading →

Love, Death & Love Notes: Danny & Annie on StoryCorps

Thanks go to the wonderful Amanda who knows how much I enjoy love stories and who kindly sent me a link to this animated StoryCorps video. It’s about a 27 year marriage, and a lot of love, between two Danny and Annie who lived together in Brooklyn. Warning: soppy tearjerker ahead. I cried and cried even though it’s only a few minutes long. Well worth it. Continue Reading →

Marriage Proposals Under Pressure

During my first trip to Sydney, I got to check one off the bucket list when I climbed the Sydney Harbour Bridge. They give you these jumpsuits to wear, complete with a utility belt and mechanical ball that connects you the entire trip to thick metal rope that goes all the way up the bridge. The guide instructs you on how to use these things and the whole group linked together for about 3 hours. Continue Reading →

Q&A: Why Does He Let The Dog Watch Us Having Sex?

I get mad because my partner wants to let the dog stay in the room during sex.  He minds his own business, but still! There’s a difference between him being okay that the dog is in the room during sex and actually wanting the dog to be in the room during sex. I’m assuming he’s just cool with it, right? I mean, he doesn’t actually go and get the dog and bring him or her into the room when you have sex, right? Because that’s a whole separate issue. Continue Reading →

Q&A: Making Time For Sex

Our busy schedules are putting a damper on our sex lives.  How do we make it work? Sex cannot always be “the” priority but if you want to keep the passion alive, you have to make it “a” priority. Building your career is an important and worthy goal. Not only does work bring home a paycheck but it also likely helps you both to feel challenged and intellectually stimulated. That said, sex and your relationship need to be important too. Continue Reading →

So Your Husband Has a Virtual Girlfriend? And She’s Not Real? Hmmm…

Check out this interesting interview by Lisa Katayama with a man – who, for a short time, courted a high school aged anime character – and his wife who is all “ooooookay… as long as he doesn’t spend way too much time doing that”-ish. Love the humanity of it all and this very common-sense way that the couple responds. Continue Reading →

Fund a Start Up Instead of Buying Wedding Registry Frying Pans

 
Meet Drue and Svetlozar. They’re planning to get married on August 29 (less than a week away!) in California. Like many engaged couples, they have a wedding registry. Unlike many engaged couples, they aren’t asking for frying pans, spatulas, towels, sheets or to complete their china pattern. Neither are they asking you to save the world by donating to a green cause or planting a seedling in your backyard in celebration of their love. Continue Reading →

Overheard at 2Amys in Georgetown

To paraphrase a conversation I heard between two 30-ish women at the Georgetown 2Amys a week ago:

Woman 1: Like a lot of the girls I grew up with, I grew up wanting to marry a wealthy man to take care of me. But unlike a lot of my friends, I feel like I need to wake up with a purpose and do something. Woman 2: So you’re saying you want a part time job? Or to volunteer? W1: Yeah, maybe. Continue Reading →