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The Question Of Libido

How important is libido in the grand scheme of things? The answer may vary according to who you ask, as does the solution. The difference between men’s and women’s libidos has been noted and amply discussed, and yet there’s no consensus on how much of that difference is biological or culturally conditioned. In this post I discuss how under-reporting due to stigma and misogyny plays a role, while Dr. Debby discusses the results of one particular study that points to stress and fatigue as major roles in Western women’s low sexual desires. And, of course, there’s the flurry of reporting about the new “female viagra,” which as Lindy at Jezebel points out, is opening up interesting questions about women’s desire, monogamy, and social paradigms.

This blogger advocates for having sex regardless of high levels of desire, arguing: “You don’t wait until you’re starving before you eat. Continue Reading →

Q&A: Can birth control lower your sex drive?

Help! Birth control is killing my sex drive.  What are my options? Though many women don’t have the experience of birth control dampening their libido, some do.  Hormonal birth control (such as the birth control pill, patch, shot and ring) all have the potential to dampen a woman’s sex drive. Fortunately, there are other options. Continue Reading →

Sex Pistol Ice Cream Pleases Londoners’ Loins?

Oh, Selfridges. As a young teenager, I so enjoyed buying clothes at your store, knowing that no other girls in my school back in the US would have the same ones. London was magical, mystical and you (and okay, your “junior” version, Miss Selfridges – I was quite young) and Harrod’s and little Church Street shops, not to mention the Sock Shop, delighted me. And now, in my adult life, you tantalize me not with clothes but with a sex-themed ice cream drink? Oh, the slow backward slide of innocence. Continue Reading →

What can I do to get my libido back? Should I fake it?

I have three children under the age of 6 and by the time it gets to be night and the kids are in bed, the last thing I want to do is have sex with my husband. What can I do to feel more in the mood or get my libido back? Or do you think I should just fake it? Answer:
No matter how wonderful women’s relationships are, it’s a fact that women often bear more than their fair share of household chores and childcare responsibilities. Even when couples are able to share the load 50/50, it’s a lot to expect desire to thrive when one has spent the past 14 hours packing lunches, changing diapers, or dropping everything to comfort a crying child. Continue Reading →