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Can One Become Too Desensitized To Sex?

Recently, a young woman wrote into us at Kinsey Confidential with a question about sex. She didn’t find sex to be particularly pleasurable, alone or with a partner, and mainly used it as a stress reliever. She wondered if this had to do with her early experiences with masturbation and watching her brother’s porn, and asked if these experiences could have desensitized to her sex and sexual pleasure. Listen to, or read, my response on the Kinsey Confidential web site. Debby Herbenick, PhD is a sex researcher and educator, a widely read sex columnist and author of Because It Feels Good: A Woman’s Guide to Sexual Pleasure and Satisfaction. Continue Reading →

Ever Fantasize About Bukkake? This Man’s Wife Does.

Some time ago, a man wrote into us at Kinsey Confidential with a question about one of his wife’s sexual fantasies. Specifically, she had fantasized about having four or more men ejaculate on her face (a practiced sometimes called “bukkake”). He was willing to entertain the idea but also had questions about her safety. Curious about my response? Listen to, or read the text of, my reply in this episode of our Kinsey Confidential podcast. Continue Reading →

Why Can I Only Have Sex After Drinking Alcohol?

A woman recently wrote into Kinsey Confidential to ask about why she is only into have sex with her boyfriend after she’s been drinking alcohol (something that had come to bother him over time). Listen to the podcast, or read my response, on the Kinsey Confidential web site. Debby Herbenick, PhD is a sex researcher and educator, a widely read sex columnist and author of Because It Feels Good: A Woman’s Guide to Sexual Pleasure and Satisfaction. Follow her on Twitter @mysexprofessor. Continue Reading →

Recent sex column round-ups

- In Velocity, check out my responses to a guy who was wondering whether he should get his booty-calling-ex a holiday gift and to a woman whose boyfriend wants her to grow her nails long so she can scratch his back (yes, in that way) – that Dec 31 column can be found on the Velocity web site

- Also in Velocity, last week’s column brought us questions from one reader who asked me for ways to re-ignite his relationship following a two-week dry spell and another reader who was bothered by her husband’s use of porn

- In Time Out Chicago, last week my weekly In&Out column heard from a male reader who wondered to what extent his penis size might be contributing to his seeming lack of luck in getting his exes to orgasm, an 18 year old female reader who experienced some bleeding after sex (well, technically after fingering) and was wondering about that, and a male reader who was looking for a way to speed up his girlfriend’s orgasm (the fact that he was spraying lidocaine on his penis in order to last longer was a challenging issue in and of itself – yikes! not a good idea, folks). – In this week’s Time Out Chicago, there are even more interesting questions from readers! Take, for example, the woman who asked how to improve her odds of orgasm given the religious guilt she experiences in regard to masturbation, another woman who wondered about whether it was safe for women to take birth control pills for years on end (and whether there was a pill for men), and a 30-ish guy whose fear of germs has kept him from having sex or getting into the relationship he very much wants. Read the column here. Continue Reading →