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Sex Toy Review: MyPleasure Waterproof Pocket Rocket

Here we are in the middle of March and I still find myself wondering about how people spend romantic occasions, such as Valentine’s Day. Do you spend them with your partner or prefer flying solo? Do you go out to a fancy dinner or keep it low key and cook at home? Do you surprise a loved one with jewelry or maybe you’re more traditional and stick to the flower/chocolate combo? Well this year – whatever the occasion – I challenge you to spice things up – why not try a sex toy? Continue Reading →

The Art of Sex and Being an Attentive Lover

Sex is an intimate dance between the physical and emotional realms of experience. Many sex tips and techniques focus on the physicality of sex such as how to last longer during sex, how to orgasm during sex, or how to get or maintain an erection during sex. Although orgasms, erections and learning to last longer are influenced by both mind and body, we often focus on the body to the exclusion of the mind and the emotions. In fact, being a good lover is about more than coming at the right time or having a hard enough erect penis. Continue Reading →

How to flirt: tips for even the most seasoned partners

Flirting is used in many different ways. At its most basic level, people may flirt with others in order to be able to get something they want: a discount, a better place in line, or free drinks. In the context of romance and sex, people flirt to signal their interest. A prolonged look across a crowded room can mean “I’m interested, come talk to me!” or it can pose a question, as in ”wanna have sex?” Continue Reading →

MSP Sex Q&A: Where can I find porn for couples or women?

Question: I’m one of those rare women who LIKES PORN! Now, uh, where can I find some (and please don’t say those sleazy adult bookstores crawling with men) that I can watch with my husband, or by myself when he’s traveling for work? Answer: Although few women have been raised with the sense that it’s okay for women to like porn, the fact is that some do. Some women like watching porn alone, such as to up their arousal or to ease orgasm during masturbation, and other women enjoy watching porn with a partner. One site,, is sort of a clearinghouse of woman-oriented porn sites and resources. Continue Reading →

Foreplay Tips for Better Sex

There’s a reason that the word “play” is paramount to “foreplay”. Time and again, what we find is that couples enjoy playfulness and that it can even spark sexual desire. This is especially true for women and for couples who have been together for a long time. Sex is often driven by closeness, intimacy and those unexpected moments that remind you why you’re as into your partner as you are – even if, at times, you’re most excited somewhere way down deep. After all, the everyday annoyances of life can grate on any relationship, which is why it is so important to make time for play. Continue Reading →

MSP Sex Q&A: How can we spice up our sex life?

Question: My girlfriend and I are both 22 but we have a pretty routine/boring sex life. How can we spice it up? Answer: Don’t give up! There is no reason that 22 should be as good as it gets. Whenever I hear someone of any age – but especially someone in their 20s or 30s – say that their sex life has hit a stand still, I usually ask if they and they partner talk about sex during times when they’re not already having it. Continue Reading →

MSP Holiday Gift Idea #5: A Sensual Bath Together (maybe thanks to a 25% off sale at Origins?)

Recently I attended a screening of The Reader (thanks, S.; everyone else: go see it!) and, perhaps because of its very sensual bathing scenes, I was inspired to suggest a sensual bath as an MSP Holiday Gift Idea. And why not? If you have what you need at home to make it special (e.g., private time together, warm water, bath salts or bubble bath), then it’s a go. Bonus if you have candles, wine or another beverage of your choice. There are many possible joys in taking baths together: the creation of a special, private place together, of solitude; the way that it feels to touch another person’s body through the lens of a smooth bath soap or lotion; warm water that soothes each other’s muscles and/or candle light that sets a mood of warmth and relaxation (sex therapists/researchers are well aware, as I’m sure you are too, of the important role that relaxation plays in enhancing arousal, desire and ease of orgasm); a chance to talk and re-connect in ways that sitting in front of the television together may not offer. Continue Reading →