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A Little Tenderness Goes A Long Way

A new study conducted by researchers at The Kinsey Institute at Indiana University is one of the first of its kind “to examine sexual and relationship parameters of middle-aged or older couples in committed, long-term relationships.” As they put it, “Research efforts to understand the place of sexuality in human lives rarely involves intact couples in ongoing relationships.” Researchers studied over 1,000 couples from different countries that had been together for an average length of 25 years. The study indicates that men are more likely to report increasing relationship satisfaction over time, while women are more likely to report increasing sexual satisfaction over time. Overall health was also important, as the study showed that men who were in good health were more likely to report higher levels of relationship happiness. Continue Reading →

What Causes Women’s Post-Sex Blues?

I recently read an interesting article from NYDailyNews.com discussing a recent study that was conducted in Australia pertaining to feelings of sadness post-sex. The study indicated that out of the 200 women they surveyed – at least one-third of the women felt sadness, anxiety, or irritability after sex. Yet what I found most interesting in the article was the reasons (or causes) for these feelings of sadness; the article listed the following (possible) explanations:

previous sexual abuse which may lead to feelings of guilt or shame,
emotional characteristics which may lead to feelings of sadness. The author of the study (Robert Schweitzer) also stated additional research needs to be done to see if the way women perceive themselves in the bedroom could has any effect on their post-sex feelings. But the one thing that comes to my mind when I think of irritability post-sex is lack of satisfaction in bed. Continue Reading →

Emotionally Safer Sex

I just finished reading the article “Safer Sex…for Your Heart” by Heather Corinna over at Scarleteen, and I must say I have found my paragon of sexual health literature (besides, of course, Because It Feels Good by our own Dr. Debby).  For many years, I have pushed for teaching safer sex in a more holistic way; considering emotional as well as physical well-being.  However, I have found few resources for this that weren’t either overly simplified or overly academic.  This article is neither of these. Heather provides an excellent primer for those who are interested in teaching about holistically safer sex, and I will be sharing this with the sexual health peer educators (Sexperteam!) who I am helping to train this weekend. Check out “Safer Sex…For Your Heart” and let us know what you think.  There’s ample information in this article, including some common sense advice along with a few gems of poetic, useful information.  I am especially fond of this paragraph: Continue Reading →