curiosity

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Why Can’t We Just Talk About Sex?

I’m annoyed at our sex-phobic culture a lot of the time, for a lot of reasons, but today it’s specifically because we consider it taboo to talk about sex outside of a few limited contexts. When is it okay to talk about sex? Presumably with one’s partner(s) – though in the mainstream culture it’s assumed that in order to talk about sex you’re heterosexually married and pursuing sexual activities as a way to procreate. And in theory you should be able to discuss sex with your medical professionals, especially if you’re experiencing a disorder that’s sexual in nature (genital pain, trying to conceive, etc.). Otherwise, there aren’t many socially acceptable venues in which to openly and honestly discuss sex. Continue Reading →

Cheese or Oral Sex?

About two years ago, one of my friend’s roommates asked me “Which would you rather give up forever, cheese or oral sex?” (It really wasn’t as unusual of a situation as you might think). I thought that it was an interesting question then, and I have to say that I’m still really intrigued by it now. As a result of my sometimes insatiable curiosity I’ve started putting the question to many (though not all, I do occasionally have a sense of propriety) of the people I encounter. This single, fairly straightforward “would you rather” has spawned a good deal of discussion in many of my social circles including my immediate family. Continue Reading →

The Riddle of Here and Why Curiosity Matters to Sex

This short film is so beautiful and precious (thanks, L, for sending it to me). There is so much potential for love, grace, connection and intimacy in the world. I hope you stop and take notice of it as much as the world takes notice of you. And I hope you get to see how much the world does, in fact, take notice of things that are special about you. Continue Reading →