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Amazon Fail: Is Amazon Burying Sex or GLBT Books?

Earlier today I was getting ready to go for a run or hit the gym (I hadn’t yet decided) when all craziness broke out on Twitter. Audacia Ray and Rachel Kramer Bussell started twittering about how sales rank data had disappeared from their book listings on Amazon. This caught my attention, as I noticed that earlier this week, it suddenly became very difficult for me to even find my book, Because It Feels Good: A Woman’s Guide to Sexual Pleasure and Satisfaction, on Amazon. While I used to be able to find it by searching using my last name “herbenick”, now when I did that all I saw was my mom’s cookbook, my uncle’s academic books and other non-sex books. Where had my book gone? Continue Reading →

MSP Q&A: How can I last long enough to satisfy my wife of 24 years?

Question: Is it possible for a man to learn to control his orgasm? After 24 years of marriage I am still not able to always satisfy my wife. This partially due to the fact that my wife does not like much foreplay or oral sex and we do not have take often anyway. She wants me to last long enough for her orgasm only which is not always possible for me. Since we only make love in the missionary position, changing positions is not an option. Continue Reading →

MSP Book Review: The Many Joys of Sex Toys by Anne Semans

Regular readers of MSP and the sex columns I write for Kinsey Confidential, Time Out Chicago, Men’s Health, Velocity and Cheeky Chicago may recall how much I like – or at least how often I’ve recommended – The Good Vibrations Guide to Sex. I even wrote a review of it for MSP more than a year ago. I’ve recommended it for years and for a variety of issues including learning to communicate about sex, to explore/diversity one’s sex life, and to learn about sex toys, too. Perhaps it is no surprise, then, that I would also be a fan of The Many Joys of Sex Toys, a book written by one of the Good Vibe’s co-authors, Anne Semans. As the book was published in 2004, it doesn’t include all of the latest, greatest toys – but that’s what the internet is for: to complement hardcover reading with information about even more toy options. Continue Reading →

MSP Holiday Gift Idea #2: It’s All Well and Good by Beth Moses

To add to previously mentioned gift ideas, let me suggest the book "It’s All Well and Good" by Beth Moses, a woman who I have heard speak publicly several times (she’s great!) and upon whom I’ve turned to many times for the gift of holistic massage therapy and talking things out. I’ve also been turning to the wisdom of her book for, oh, about 5 or 6 years. Though it is booked with information about massage, self-care, stretching, meditation, relationships, and finding balance, her words have helped me (and quite a few friends) through difficult times related to love, sex, school, work, and family. It’s one of those books that you can pick up and just read a page or two, and be good to go for a while. Her book has also had an important influence on the ways in which I try to blend love and sex with issues of ethics and integrity. Continue Reading →