What to do when his penis pops or breaks during sex

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Sex Crisis #4: His Penis “Pops” During Sex

There you two are: enjoying a hot, sexy, vigorous, enthusiastic bout of sex – with you on top – when his penis slips out, hits hard against (rather than “in”) your body and you hear the dreaded “pop”. While not common, I hear from about 5-10 men each year who have had this happen to them and wonder what to do. Here’s how to proceed:

1. Stop what you’re doing. Sex injuries need attention and this is a potentially serious sex injury, so take a breather, people. If it just slipped out and slightly hit against your body, that’s one thing. But if it actually popped or hit your body hard? That’s a whole new ballgame.

2. Assess the situation. First, ask yourselves if it actually popped. Also, ask your guy if his penis hurts or is sore. If so, he may want to call his healthcare provider (the answering service can likely phone his doctor at any time of day or night) or you two might want to take a trip to the emergency room. Even though there are no bones in the penis, the spongy tissue inside gets hard as blood fills the chambers – thus causing an erection – and things can get bad if these tissues are damaged. If left untreated, scar tissue can develop leading to erectile problems or pain. As awkward or embarrassing as it may be to seek a doctor’s care for a sex injury, sometimes it’s necessary. And always be truthful about how sex injuries happen as getting the details straight are sometimes important to quality healthcare. 

3. Whoa there, Nellie. Woman-on-top is the position in which penis pops seem to happen more than others so try not to bounce up and down so much that his penis is constantly coming in and out of your body. If that’s your thing, at least try to do it in a more controlled way so that you can tell sooner rather than later if he’s going to wham bam your body rather than your vagina. If you tend to get uber-wet during sex, and you’re still comfortable if you dry things off a little here and there, keep a hand towel nearby to do so every now and then. Penises can slip more often in high lube situations and occasional dry-off moments may reduce the likelihood of a pop.

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This article was originally published in my weekly column at CheekyChicago.com. Follow me on Twitter - I am @mysexprofessor.

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About Dr. Debby Herbenick

Dr. Debby Herbenick

Dr. Debby Herbenick is a sex researcher at Indiana University, sexual health educator at The Kinsey Institute, columnist, and author of five books about sex and love. Learn more about her work at www.sexualhealth.indiana.edu.