TWYD #7: Urethral Play, Urethral Sounds and More

A few weeks ago, I started an email chain with Dick and a mutual friend. This is how it went:

Debby: Recently I was talking to (friend) about men who like urethral play. In other words, men who like to stimulate themselves by inserting things into their urethras. Things I’ve heard of being inserted into the urethra: metal rods, straws, snakes (yes, live snakes), sticks, leaves, etc. Have you heard of this? It clearly runs its fair share of risks but some people dig it. Here are some examples of urethral “sounds” that some people play with (there are sex sites that sell medical equipment – aka medical toys - that are used for sex play): http://store.erosboutique.com/mm5/merchant.mvcScreen=CTGY&Store_Code=erosbout&Category_Code=medical2

Dick: (silent. Ignores this three-way email conversation he is supposed to be a part of, but our mutual friend chimes in)

Mutual Friend: oh jesus. really? these things exist?

Debby: well between that and a live garden snake, which would you go with? a not-living metal sound or a snake? I mean, if you had to choose?

Mutual Friend: i don’t get it…it vibrates against you or you insert it?

Debby: you insert it. well, maybe not “you”, but some people do. In one medical article that I read, the doctor found a dead snake in a man’s bladder. It presumably wriggled free after the guy had inserted it into his urethra, and it got stuck in his bladder.

Mutual Friend: This one is way over the top for me. I just don’t think I would find that pleasurable or safe.

Dick: i actually thought we talked about this kind of thing already, but i guess i obsessed over this for weeks with other random citizens.

Debby: First, we barely ever touched on urethral play (see earlier conversation in which you wondered about the Fleshlight in relation to this). Second, the thought of you having these conversations “for weeks” with others makes me feel like you’re cheating on me by having amazing sex conversations with other people and not keeping me posted. Sad.

Dick: Wait… a snake? seriously? We can talk about this, but i can’t open these links at work…

Debby: Okay, I’ll save the link to a 2006 article titled “From Urethra With Shove: Bladder Foreign Bodies: A Case Report and Review” for another time. It’s one of my favorites.

In his own words, Dick is a 27-year-old heterosexual college grad who works in TV and lives in New York.  He’s slept with approximately 15 women, most of whose names he can remember, but only a few of whom he’s ever had sex with more than once, and in full disclosure, one of them poured a beer on his head at a bar shortly after they got busy. He has two fantasy football teams, a two at a time netflix account, a used nissan, and a wardrobe consisting mostly of clothes from the Gap. He considers himself a decent pickup basketball player, better than average golfer, and is proud to have run a marathon in under 3:45.  Dick has an above average tolerance for alcohol, but realizes this could be a problem in the future.  He is curently dating someone, but if she ever read this that would probably change. He is by no means an expert in sex, love, or therapy.

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[Photo of snake by dws1117, via Flickr/Creative Commons.]

About Dr. Debby Herbenick

Dr. Debby Herbenick

Dr. Debby Herbenick is a sex researcher at Indiana University, sexual health educator at The Kinsey Institute, columnist, and author of five books about sex and love. Learn more about her work at www.sexualhealth.indiana.edu.

  • Natalie

    Oh, man. Some of those sounds are interesting. It’s been quite some time since a sex toy actually shocked me. Nicely done!

  • Natalie

    Oh, man. Some of those sounds are interesting. It’s been quite some time since a sex toy actually shocked me. Nicely done!

  • JH

    i crossed my legs when I read this.

  • JH

    i crossed my legs when I read this.

  • Debby

    Though it wasn’t meant to shock, I’m glad you found it of interest. The wide variety of objects people use for sexual stimulation can certainly be surprising.

  • Debby

    Though it wasn’t meant to shock, I’m glad you found it of interest. The wide variety of objects people use for sexual stimulation can certainly be surprising.

  • PeeWee

    I ahve been doing this, UP, for about 20 years. I am single 65 suffer from ED due to diabetes and have no sex life anymore except I can still jerk off when I get hard with what blood vessels are not clogged. I love to stick anything cylindrical in my peehole. I Use siliva for lube except for larger toys I due use a commercial lube.
    Before I got to my present stae I use to insert a 4 inch metal tube completely then masturbate. The results were always the same…. a powerful ejaculation like when I was a teenager and shot clear over the footboard on my bed. For those wishing to try this I highly recommend it for an additional thrill. However I have never strilized anything, maybe I just have a good immune system, so be safe and for those newbies use lube then it there will be no OUCH. It’ll slide right in

  • PeeWee

    I ahve been doing this, UP, for about 20 years. I am single 65 suffer from ED due to diabetes and have no sex life anymore except I can still jerk off when I get hard with what blood vessels are not clogged. I love to stick anything cylindrical in my peehole. I Use siliva for lube except for larger toys I due use a commercial lube.
    Before I got to my present stae I use to insert a 4 inch metal tube completely then masturbate. The results were always the same…. a powerful ejaculation like when I was a teenager and shot clear over the footboard on my bed. For those wishing to try this I highly recommend it for an additional thrill. However I have never strilized anything, maybe I just have a good immune system, so be safe and for those newbies use lube then it there will be no OUCH. It’ll slide right in

  • Debby

    Thanks for your comments – your reminder to be safe, to sterilize and to use lubricant are, I hope, helpful to those considering this type of play.

  • Debby

    Thanks for your comments – your reminder to be safe, to sterilize and to use lubricant are, I hope, helpful to those considering this type of play.

  • Nathan

    I’ve heard of some of these things before. The most extreme instance was when I was watching a documentary about prostitution, and it got to a part where the women were discussing different things that men would ask for. One of the women spoke of one of her “regulars” who would bring barb wire with him, and have her thread that through his “glory hole” and then yank it out like she was pulling the cord on a lawn mower.

    To each his own I guess….

  • Nathan

    I’ve heard of some of these things before. The most extreme instance was when I was watching a documentary about prostitution, and it got to a part where the women were discussing different things that men would ask for. One of the women spoke of one of her “regulars” who would bring barb wire with him, and have her thread that through his “glory hole” and then yank it out like she was pulling the cord on a lawn mower.

    To each his own I guess….

  • Diddlestik

    I am into serious urethral play and rarely get a UTI from it. One of my favorite inserts is a computer power cord with a tear-drop end that is made of harden glue. This is 60″ long and with a semi-filled bladder it all will curl up inside the bladder with very nice distention. My other kinky toy is my Sneaky Snake. It is a 18″ long latex snake with a pull string in its head. With lots of KY I can slowly squeeze this entier snake into my bladder to just sort of swim around. My bladder does not like the feel of laxtex on its now distented wall so it wants to push out. I may leak some but the snake must be slowly pulled out with string for removal. I can hae normal sex and ejacuatlion with the snake in place. I also have a curved metal J- sound that goes into bladder, curves in place and with a rubber ball in anus will lock into place in Cobbs Curve and I can this hidden sound to pool or around town. Wild huh.

  • Diddlestik

    I am into serious urethral play and rarely get a UTI from it. One of my favorite inserts is a computer power cord with a tear-drop end that is made of harden glue. This is 60″ long and with a semi-filled bladder it all will curl up inside the bladder with very nice distention. My other kinky toy is my Sneaky Snake. It is a 18″ long latex snake with a pull string in its head. With lots of KY I can slowly squeeze this entier snake into my bladder to just sort of swim around. My bladder does not like the feel of laxtex on its now distented wall so it wants to push out. I may leak some but the snake must be slowly pulled out with string for removal. I can hae normal sex and ejacuatlion with the snake in place. I also have a curved metal J- sound that goes into bladder, curves in place and with a rubber ball in anus will lock into place in Cobbs Curve and I can this hidden sound to pool or around town. Wild huh.

  • Debby

    Thank you so much for sharing your experiences with urethral play.

  • Debby

    Thank you so much for sharing your experiences with urethral play.

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  • Steve

    Hi, I have recently started trying different objects to sound with. My latest idea was to try a worm, but we have no large ones in Florida. Decided on a rubber fishing worm. After a good wash, and a hard cock it slipped right in. Looks pretty cool too.

  • Steve

    Hi, I have recently started trying different objects to sound with. My latest idea was to try a worm, but we have no large ones in Florida. Decided on a rubber fishing worm. After a good wash, and a hard cock it slipped right in. Looks pretty cool too.