The delusions of love

When I first started studying psychology, I became quite interested in the concept of things that were – as they often say in the field of psychology – "real or imagined" (or "real or perceived"). The essence is that in many ways, it doesn’t matter if the basis for one’s fears/comforts are real or imagined/perceived, because if that’s what you perceive, then it has the ability to affect you. If you perceive a snake is on the path and jump from fright, it has the same effect on you whether it is indeed a snake ("real") or whether it is actually a piece of rope that you only thought was a snake ("perceived/imagined").

And so it is with love and romance. Read this interesting (and brief) New York Times piece about the delusions of romance.

About Dr. Debby Herbenick

Dr. Debby Herbenick

Dr. Debby Herbenick is a sex researcher at Indiana University, sexual health educator at The Kinsey Institute, columnist, and author of five books about sex and love. Learn more about her work at