Kinsey Confidential podcast: Can a vagina get bigger? Looser? Can it change size?

This was a particularly interesting question, in my opinion, that we received at Kinsey Confidential. In situations where women and men haven’t learned a lot about their bodies, they sometimes make assumptions about what something "means". We all do this! We try to make sense of reasons why we have pimples, why our noses run, why our hair turns gray earlier than we hoped it would, and such. In the case of genitals, our culture carries a lot of shame around sexuality and sometimes people make assumptions about normal genital function, thinking that it means something other than it does. In this case, a male reader was wondering if his girlfriend’s vaginal size was a sign that she had cheated on him with someone else.

Here is his question:
"My girlfriend and I have been sexually active for months and she has always felt the same, tightness wise, to me. I hadn’t seen her for two weeks and when I returned it seems her vagina has gotten wider. Is there any way for this to have happened without her cheating on me?"

You can listen to my response on our Kinsey Confidential podcast here:

 

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About Dr. Debby Herbenick

Dr. Debby Herbenick

Dr. Debby Herbenick is a sex researcher at Indiana University, sexual health educator at The Kinsey Institute, columnist, and author of five books about sex and love. Learn more about her work at www.sexualhealth.indiana.edu.