Emotionally Safer Sex

I just finished reading the article “Safer Sex…for Your Heart” by Heather Corinna over at Scarleteen, and I must say I have found my paragon of sexual health literature (besides, of course, Because It Feels Good by our own Dr. Debby).  For many years, I have pushed for teaching safer sex in a more holistic way; considering emotional as well as physical well-being.  However, I have found few resources for this that weren’t either overly simplified or overly academic.  This article is neither of these.

Heather provides an excellent primer for those who are interested in teaching about holistically safer sex, and I will be sharing this with the sexual health peer educators (Sexperteam!) who I am helping to train this weekend.

Check out “Safer Sex…For Your Heart” and let us know what you think.  There’s ample information in this article, including some common sense advice along with a few gems of poetic, useful information.  I am especially fond of this paragraph:

“Only seeing general, binary options — to either have sex or not to — doesn’t help us an awful lot, or give us food for thought to determine what may be risky sexual behavior for any of us when it comes to our hearts, minds and the quality of our relationships and sexual life. Sex is not something that need be hurtful, or that we have to avoid so as not to get hurt or hurt anyone else. When entered into with a solid basis of self-awareness, empathy, care, good judgment and an arsenal of accurate information, sex has no more the capacity to hurt than anything else in life, and has the capacity to be something wonderful, empowering and beneficial.”

Thanks to Heather for this wonderful article.  Here’s to the MSP team, Sexperteam, and all the others providing that “arsenal of accurate information.”

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Image thanks to Scarleteen.

About Craig VanKempen

Craig VanKempen

Craig VanKempen, LLMSW/MPH, is a sex educator and therapist practicing in the Detroit/Ann Arbor area. His professional interests include HIV, polyamory, compulsive sexual behavior, religion and sexuality, and GLBT issues.