Being Sexually Submissive Or Sexually Anything Doesn’t Impact Your Competence

I love this piece by Clarisse Thorn investigating the links between some women’s sexual submission and the rest of their lives. To quote my favorite part:

Sexual kinks don’t necessarily affect one’s performance in non-sexual fields. A sexually submissive woman won’t make a bad CEO (at least, not because she’s sexually submissive). I mean, come on, it’s not like there aren’t sexually submissive men in powerful corporate positions.”

In short, your sexual preferences are just one part of your identity. So long as what you’re engaging in is consensual, being submissive or kinky or gay or straight has NO bearing on what else you are capable of doing.

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Jeana

Jeana Jorgensen, PhD recently completed her doctoral degree in folklore and gender studies at Indiana University. She studies fairy tales and other narratives, dance, body art, feminist theory, digital humanities, and gender identity.

  • http://twitter.com/slikid2 Jevad Jackson

    Sexual fantasy is just that, fantasy, isn’t it? Enjoy and indulge. Sex is primal and fantasy can come come from deep down in our psyche and confuse and scare us.
    I’ve always felt that there are probably just about as many men who would enjoy being dominated if they could just let themselves be without thinking it makes them weak, etc. (I’m glad I figured it out, I was missing out on too much fun!)
    Also, in sexual play involving dominance the one desiring to be dominated is the one in control. He/she is getting exactly what they want aren’t they?

  • http://twitter.com/foxyfolklorist Jeana Jorgensen

    I’d say fantasies are related to culture in some sense, but it’s still really fuzzy and hard to determine, so effectively, we have to act as though fantasies exist in their own realm, and we can’t judge people by their fantasies.

    And yeah, I think a lot of people would be surprised at what they might enjoy if they think outside the stereotypes saying what they should or shouldn’t like.