Sex post-prostate cancer

This New York Times article does a good job of trying to explain the seemingly at-odds data surrounding sex after prostate cancer. For example, some of the research suggests that many men – maybe even most men – can have an erection "good enough for intercourse" after surgery to treat prostate cancer. But what does "good enough for intercourse" mean and do patients and doctors see it the same way? Does that mean good sex? Feasible sex?

Here’s a quote from the article:
"The reality is that whether a man is able to have sex after prostate surgery depends as much on the man as it does on the surgeon. How good was his sex life before cancer? Does he have a supportive partner? Did he need to use an erection drug before surgery?"

I love that the said "partner" and not "wife" or "girlfriend". After all, men with prostate cancer may or may not be married and may or may not be straight. Prostate cancer is an equal opportunity cancer and affects men of all sexual orientations and all relationship statuses. 

Another interesting quote is this one:

Already, Mr. Anthony said, his sexual ability is as good as it was before, and he does not require medication, though he agrees that orgasm is different now. "I’m still happy,” he said. “I hear a little trumpet section, but I don’t hear the whole orchestra.”

Read the full article here.

About Dr. Debby Herbenick

Dr. Debby Herbenick

Dr. Debby Herbenick is a sex researcher at Indiana University, sexual health educator at The Kinsey Institute, columnist, and author of five books about sex and love. Learn more about her work at