Real or fake?

The Dear Penthouse quality of this letter – and the fact that a single mom pays 600 British pounds per month – makes me wonder how much of this "I pay a man for regular sex" article is for real. Assuming it is for real (some women do, after all, pay men for sex) it would perhaps challenge ideas of gender a bit more to post a letter from a woman who – rather than paying a man for a candle-lit dinner, candle-lit sex and staying the night - pays a  man for something a little less romantic, a little less relational. Not that I’m saying women or men should do that… just that the occasional reminder that might challenge us to think about women’s sexuality in broader terms.

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About Dr. Debby Herbenick

Dr. Debby Herbenick

Dr. Debby Herbenick is a sex researcher at Indiana University, sexual health educator at The Kinsey Institute, columnist, and author of five books about sex and love. Learn more about her work at