I recently read an interesting article from NYDailyNews.com discussing a recent study that was conducted in Australia pertaining to feelings of sadness post-sex. The study indicated that out of the 200 women they surveyed – at least one-third of the women felt sadness, anxiety, or irritability after sex.
Yet what I found most interesting in the article was the reasons (or causes) for these feelings of sadness; the article listed the following (possible) explanations:
- previous sexual abuse which may lead to feelings of guilt or shame,
- emotional characteristics which may lead to feelings of sadness.
The author of the study (Robert Schweitzer) also stated additional research needs to be done to see if the way women perceive themselves in the bedroom could has any effect on their post-sex feelings.
But the one thing that comes to my mind when I think of irritability post-sex is lack of satisfaction in bed. (A bit of clarification, I am not saying that the sex was not enjoyable; rather I am saying the frustration may stem from lack of orgasm on the women’s side.)
For example, I have heard from a few of my friends that they typically fake a few orgasms while having sex in order to boost their partners confidence as well as make themselves appear more sexy/desirable. Yet these same friends get irritated once their boyfriend finishes – leaving them sexually frustrated.
Obviously the issue with this is that if women are not communicating what they desire in bed, they may not get to reach orgasm (especially if the guy is mislead thinking he already aided in a few orgasms) or otherwise experience the kind of pleasure they want, orgasm or not. I can’t help but wonder to what extent this could contribute to feelings of irritability and sadness after sex.
Although I am no expert of psychological studies, I know from personal experience that lack of communication in bed can lead to lack of pleasure and/or orgasm (which then leads to feelings of frustration post-sex); therefore I found it interesting that the specific component (pertaining to lack of satisfaction) was left out of the article.
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