Lovely vs Mighty

My friend Cat Valente wrote a great post about finally being described as “mighty.” She is one of the most eloquent writers that I know and is used to being called “lovely” (sometimes ad nauseum).

While I do think that Cat is lovely, I have multitudes of better descriptions for her. She describes this one little adjective as “illuminating” for her. She discusses how “lovely” is a feminine word and used so often to describe female writers that many people barely even notice it anymore. She wrote about feeling excited that someone uses a strong word like mighty (which, well, she is!) to describe her and her work.

She wrote, “And six years of publishing, I’ve been 90% lovely, and only ever 10% anything else. (Of which 5% is probably “awesome” and the other 5% are words that are not so nice.) I call for a hiatus on calling female writers lovely in write-ups, blogs, and articles. We are writers. This kind of thing does not become us.”

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About Holly Moyseenko

Holly Moyseenko is a sex educator living in Ohio. She is an advocate of positive and healthy sexuality. Holly currently works for a non-profit health organization as a health educator, and also teaches workshops that focus on many topics within the realm of healthy sexuality. In her spare time, she also is an advocate for survivors of sexual assault, gardens, reads anything within reach, drinks copious amounts of tea, and naps with her two dogs.

  • Jeana Jorgensen

    I adore Cat’s writing as well! Have you read Palimpsest? I was thinking of posting a review of it here because, well, the connections with sex are fairly well-articulated, and I think readers of this blog would enjoy a book that so imaginatively approaches sex and identity and desire.

  • Holly Moyseenko Kossover

    A benefit of being friends with Cat is getting things like a book as a wedding favor :) I loved Palimpsest, and I think it would make a great book for reviewing – there’s so many different aspects that you could focus on. I love how Cat writes about sex – she makes it sexy and appealing, without getting smutty (so Cat is the opposite of the Anne Rice Sleeping Beauty books that we would pass back and forth in the back of the bus).