Consent Is Sexy!

I’m a big fan of Scarleteen; the site bills itself as “sex ed for the real world” and I think it’s fantastic. Some articles are clearly aimed at a teenage demographic, but the material is still relevant to any age group, in my opinion. As someone who has volunteered for a rape crisis center for a few years now and a sex educator, consent is a very important topic to me.

Scarleteen recently posted two things that I found very interesting and wanted to share. The first is their Sexual Inventory Stocklist , and as it mentions, can be used as a starting point for conversation with a partner. In my experience, few people are taught communication skills, and sex can be very difficult to talk about. Sure, we joke about sex in America, and it’s almost every aspect of the media. If you like the Stocklist, it can be downloaded as a pdf. You could also edit it and just use portions to talk about with a partner. Related, Scarleteen posted a quick little quiz on how often people seek consent. It will only take a second, so if you get a chance, check it out and click. And the next time you’re with your partner, try talking about things on the stocklist.

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About Holly Moyseenko

Holly Moyseenko is a sex educator living in Ohio. She is an advocate of positive and healthy sexuality. Holly currently works for a non-profit health organization as a health educator, and also teaches workshops that focus on many topics within the realm of healthy sexuality. In her spare time, she also is an advocate for survivors of sexual assault, gardens, reads anything within reach, drinks copious amounts of tea, and naps with her two dogs.

  • Atadam

    Do we need a stocklist to fuck? Shouldn’t teenagers be exploring each other with some sense of mystery and even fear. Isn’t that all part of the erotic experience.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1173150957 Holly Moyseenko Kossover

    No one needs a stocklist to do anything. I personally believe that teenagers do what they are comfortable and happy with doing – for some of them, a stocklist may give them ideas of things to do if they aren’t comfortable engaging in sex yet. I personally (as an adult) enjoy the stocklist for a way to get conversation going.