Battling HIV/AIDS

The New York Times published several letters to the editor about a recent article related to HIV/AIDS and I recommend reading each of them here. Here is one of the ones that touched me the most – the sentiments expressed are not true for all gay men, or even all gay men over 50, but they are true for this one man. He wrote:

To the Editor:

Your editorial suggests that a significant decline in H.I.V. among gay men over 30 might be the result of personal loss. Many of us, including men in their 50s like me, are still grieving; our friends are no longer with us, and we feel their absence in our lives every day.

Our goal is to remain H.I.V.-negative and to live. Casual sex is out. For us, the discussion and the debates are over.

Benjamin M. Hamilton
Astoria, Queens, Jan. 14, 2008

About Dr. Debby Herbenick

Dr. Debby Herbenick

Dr. Debby Herbenick is a sex researcher at Indiana University, sexual health educator at The Kinsey Institute, columnist, and author of five books about sex and love. Learn more about her work at