Barack and Michelle Obama: They do a lot of fisting? (oops)

 

Looks as though a certain TV talking head could use a brief Sex 101. Recently a woman on TV was talking about how affectionate Barack and Michelle Obama are with each other. She said “they do a lot of touching, kissing, even fisting with one another.” (Enter nervous laughter from more knowledgeable TV host).

I imagine she was referring to the so-called fist bumps that surprised and confused many older adults, but made many younger people feel like they were cute, or more similar to them, or else they didn’t think anything of it at all. However, trading fist bumps is nowhere near the same thing as fisting. That’s because “fisting” is a term used to describing inserting one’s entire hand (but not a clenched first) into a partner’s vagina or anus. Usually, a sizable amount of lubricant is recommended (especially for anal fisting, as the anus does not lubricate naturally like the vagina does).

As I said, although the term is “fisting”, the hand itself is usually not made into a fist (except sometimes when the hand is already inside the agreed-upon orifice)  - as that could cause damage to the vagina or anus – rather than fingers are usually a bit straighter and curved. To learn more about fisting, check out the classic book Hand in the Bush.

(Thanks, Kevin, for the tip.)

About Dr. Debby Herbenick

Dr. Debby Herbenick

Dr. Debby Herbenick is a sex researcher at Indiana University, sexual health educator at The Kinsey Institute, columnist, and author of five books about sex and love. Learn more about her work at www.sexualhealth.indiana.edu.

  • Tim Hughes

    Oh no she di’int!

  • Tim Hughes

    Oh no she di’int!

  • JH

    yikes!

  • JH

    yikes!

  • Debby

    I know… I wonder when she figured out that she “went there”.

  • Debby

    I know… I wonder when she figured out that she “went there”.