“Sex geek” or “sex nerd” is an identification used by many people in the sex-positive community to describe their unusual, academic, and/or voracious interest in sexual knowledge. This interest extends well beyond that which would simply improve one’s own sex life. While clearly this kind of scholarship would likely lead to better sex for the individual, sex geeks like to learn about sex for the sake of learning about sex. Sex educator Reid Mihalko has one particularly holistic definition on his website, complete with equally nerdy three-way Venn diagram. Like people who are really into math, sports, movies, or French literature, sex geeks are just wired a little differently. As with any identity term, sex geeks may define it in a myriad of ways, but I compiled a list of various anecdotes that typify what I understand sex geekdom to be.
So without further ado, here are 16 signs you might be a sex geek.
1. You’ve had to add words like “phthalates” and “pubococcygeus” to your MS Word dictionary.
2. You enjoy learning about the etymology of sex-related words (“Hey guys! ‘Penis’ comes from the Latin for ‘tail!’”).
3. You take part in sex-related arts & crafts.
4. You follow the on-going professional debate about the existence and location of the G-spot.
5. You own a vulva puppet. Or several.
6. You’ve talked about vaginal photoplethysmography with your friends.
7. You’ve named your pet after a famous sex researcher.
8. You’ve gone to Iceland for vacation, just to see the Icelandic Phallological Museum.
9. You know the plural for uterus is “uteri.”
10. You know the differences between bonobo and chimpanzee social behavior.
11. You bookmarked the female-orgasm-as-seen-through-fMRI video.
12. You know what a baculum is.
13. You’re reeeeeally glad you’re not a female hyena (human childbirth is anatomically challenging enough).
14. You see vulva- and penis-shaped things everywhere you go.
15. If you tell someone you’re making cupcakes, it’s assumed you’re making vulva cupcakes.
16. You chuckled when you read “three-way Venn diagram” in the first paragraph.
I imagine it’s likely that most readers of this site will relate to more than one of these snippets and might have a few more of their own to share. As this is in no way an exhaustive list (and I delight in sex geekery), I welcome your additions.