Sex Toy Shopping Tip #2: Choosing vibrators that are more quiet than loud

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This post is Part 2 of a four-part series on shopping for sex toys. If you haven’t already done so, read Part 1, and check back next week for Part 3.

Tip #2: Know your (noise) limits.

Everyone has their own comfort sound when it comes to sound. Some of us go full throttle with our iPods or televisions (in spite of the potential damage to our ear drums) while others keep the volume more moderate or quiet. Sound gets even trickier when it comes to vibrators since the sound is an indication of a very private thing – namely, those dreams you’ve been having of that guy you keep seeing on the el. But I digress.

The point is that your roommate and/or neighbor probably doesn’t care too much if they overhear a few lines of The Office blaring from your room while they’re studying or cooking dinner, but do they really want to hear your vibrator abuzz? Particularly in combination with your moaning things about riding hard on the red line? Probably not (unless they’re pervs).

If you have roommates, nearby neighbors and thin walls, sound may be a particularly important consideration for your sex toy shopping. Check out local woman-friendly shops such as Tulip, g Boutique and Early to Bed (in the Chicago area) or Babeland, Good Vibrations, the Safe Sex Store, or The Pleasure Chest (in Seattle, NYC, San Francisco, Brookline MA, Ann Arbor and LA) so that you can turn vibrators on and hear what they sound like (and what they feel like in your hand – no, not down there) before buying one.

You can also check out vibrators and their accompanying volume through in-home sex toy parties a la Pure Romance or Passion Parties, during which party facilitators often pass sex toys around the room so that women can hold them, touch them, turn them on and off as a means of seeing which toy (if any) might be good for them.

All that said, sometimes a woman’s favorite toy is indeed one that is loud (in fact, the most intense toys are often quite loud). No worries. To avoid creeping out (or arousing?) your neighbors, put a pillow or two over your pelvic area to muffle the sound, turn on your ceiling fan or portable space heater or A/C unit, or turn on some music – just don’t make it the Jonas brothers. That’s wrong on so many levels.

To learn more about how to choose – and use – sex toys, check out my new book Because It Feels Good: A Woman’s Guide to Sexual Pleasure & Satisfaction (save money by pre-ordering your copy on Amazon).

Related MSP Posts:
- Sex toys for men and couples: the penis ring thrust counter
- Sex toy shopping tip: sex toys you can use with a partner
- G Spot, Rabbit, Vaginal Vibrators and more – shopping tips!
- How your iPhone may serve as an amazing sex toy

 [Originally published in my weekly column at CheekyChicago.com]

[Above photo by paper or plastic, via their Flickr photostream.]

About Dr. Debby Herbenick

Dr. Debby Herbenick

Dr. Debby Herbenick is a sex researcher at Indiana University, sexual health educator at The Kinsey Institute, columnist, and author of five books about sex and love. Learn more about her work at www.sexualhealth.indiana.edu.

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    I get this question ALL the time from customers and usually suggest (besides the obvious turning the testers on and see how they sound) to look for vibes that are small and/or made of a soft material. That is usually where you’ll find the quietest vibes. Big hard plastic ones, while powerful and yummy, usually are the loudest. Also, vibes will get louder with age, especially if you just drop then on the floor (like I do) when you are done.

    xoxox
    searah

  • http://www.early2bed.com searah

    I get this question ALL the time from customers and usually suggest (besides the obvious turning the testers on and see how they sound) to look for vibes that are small and/or made of a soft material. That is usually where you’ll find the quietest vibes. Big hard plastic ones, while powerful and yummy, usually are the loudest. Also, vibes will get louder with age, especially if you just drop then on the floor (like I do) when you are done.

    xoxox
    searah

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    My favorite toy is not loud (TG!) but many powerful ones can be.