Gift Ideas For Women Who Want More Orgasms

It’s that time of year again! Time for my fun MySexProfessor gift ideas. First up: gift ideas for women who want more orgasms. Or, in some cases, women who want to orgasm at all. Here are four possibilities:

silver bullet vibrator

1) Silver Bullet Vibrator ($15, Pure Romance). Yes, it’s an old standby – and for good reason! It’s a great beginner’s toy as well as a nice toy for seasoned vibrator vets. Why? Personally, I think the multi-speed dial offers a range of vibration possibilities for women and their orgasms. Women can use low speed settings to build arousal (which is all some women need to kick their orgasms into high gear) or to have their first orgasm (small levels of vibration are all some beginners need to push them over the orgasmic edge). Then there are women who prefer or require higher intensity vibration which the silver bullet also offers. Plus, it’s small enough to fit inside a lover’s stocking.

because it feels good by debby herbenick

2) Because It Feels Good: A Woman’s Guide to Sexual Pleasure & Satisfaction ($10.99 from Strand Books, $14.95 from Amazon). Full disclosure: I wrote this book. But I’m not just trying to push it on you for no reason! I wrote Because It Feels Good because I want to help women have the sex lives that they want – whatever that may look or feel like for them. Women tend to find it difficult to orgasm for many reasons – for some, all they need is factual information about their bodies (Chapter 2) and tips on how to tweak sex in ways that promote orgasm and pleasure (Chapters 7-9). Others need specific orgasm tips (the Orgasm Chapter) or ways to boost desire and arousal (Chapters 3 & 4) that get them close enough to the yummy parts of sex that make orgasm that much easier. In other words, there’s something in here for every woman who is trying to learn to orgasm for the first time or to learn to orgasm in a new way (like from oral sex or intercourse).

3) A Massage (Free!). Some women have trouble letting go and relaxing before sex and massage can help to get them in the mood. Massage and sensual touching can also build arousal which can make it easier for a woman to have one orgasm or even several in a row (multiple orgasm). It also gives couples an opportunity to get to know each other’s bodies more intimately and to remember how good it feels to touch another person’s naked skin (and to be touched, too), all of which can help to enhance the pleasure and joy in a sexual and/or romantic relationship.

she comes first by ian kerner

4) She Comes First: The Thinking Man’s Guide to Pleasuring A Woman: Well, this one isn’t exactly for the woman who wants to orgasm herself. It’s more for a man (or woman) who has a female partner who wants to learn to orgasm. Or who wants to orgasm from oral sex more specifically: thanks to this book, she may have a better chance thanks to the lovely tips for performing cunnilingus and adoring women’s bodies that grace these fine pages thanks to author Ian Kerner.

About Dr. Debby Herbenick

Dr. Debby Herbenick

Dr. Debby Herbenick is a sex researcher at Indiana University, sexual health educator at The Kinsey Institute, columnist, and author of five books about sex and love. Learn more about her work at www.sexualhealth.indiana.edu.

  • Tom

    Great choice.
    And I’d also recommend Number 4 and or a good vibe for gift ideas on how to get your lady to ask/demand/seek out and pin you down of more orgasms in general! Some women have already realised that pleasure is ok, pleasurable and not sinful, but some women may not normally ask for orgasms directly. Guilt, whatever. Hoorah for those women who feel comfortable in asking for an orgasm, or even better perhaps, not stopping at one if they feel the desire! Hoorah for their partners who fulfil this :)

  • Tom

    Great choice.
    And I’d also recommend Number 4 and or a good vibe for gift ideas on how to get your lady to ask/demand/seek out and pin you down of more orgasms in general! Some women have already realised that pleasure is ok, pleasurable and not sinful, but some women may not normally ask for orgasms directly. Guilt, whatever. Hoorah for those women who feel comfortable in asking for an orgasm, or even better perhaps, not stopping at one if they feel the desire! Hoorah for their partners who fulfil this :)