Wondering what he or she is doing RIGHT NOW

" Love is wondering what he’s doing right now this very moment." – Charles M. Schulz

When I was growing up, Van Halen had a video for their song Right Now and in it they showed all these lines related to the "right now" theme. One line that always struck me was "Right now she is going on with her life." 

If you are obsessed with thoughts of someone, consider asking yourself to what extent these thoughts are contributing to your life versus keeping you stuck. Sometimes we obsess over a memory of someone, or an idea of what life could be like if only if were with that other person.

It can be perfectly okay to think about someone and wonder what they are up to. Most great romances include this element. Just make sure you don’t waste your time thinking about someone who never, ever thinks about you.

Some other lines from the Van Halen video… not the song, just the video that I recommend watching if you have never seen it or if it’s been a long time:

Right now your parents miss you.
Right now no one is safe from loneliness.
Right now it’s cold where someone you love is (and they show a cemetery! Oh, if only I knew then how that would pain me now that I have lost more people I love…)

Here is the video:

 

About Dr. Debby Herbenick

Dr. Debby Herbenick

Dr. Debby Herbenick is a sex researcher at Indiana University, sexual health educator at The Kinsey Institute, columnist, and author of five books about sex and love. Learn more about her work at www.sexualhealth.indiana.edu.

  • Chris

    One line that has stuck with me since I first saw this video back in the eighties……

    Right now…Time is having its way with you.

    So true on many many levels!!!

  • Chris

    One line that has stuck with me since I first saw this video back in the eighties……

    Right now…Time is having its way with you.

    So true on many many levels!!!