When you’re in love…

"Love is watching someone else’s boring show on T.V." – Charles M. Schulz, in a 1979 copy of Love is…Walking Hand-in-Hand

I’m not big on TV so for me, this one has definitely been true! I have sat through so many TV shows… and all because I loved the person I was with. Sometimes I even learned to like the tv shows.

It is true that there is a gray area between sharing activities together and giving up part of yourself. Some people find that they take on too much of what their partner enjoys doing and never really get to explore what they, themselves, really enjoy or would like to do. Personally, and through my work with individuals and couples (note: I am not a therapist, however), it seems that it is important for individuals to have a sense of self-awareness about what they truly enjoy. You don’t have to like all of the same things to be a great couple. It is okay to have differnet opinions, interests and likes and it is also okay to cultivate interests away from each other. Just make sure that you come together on enough issues or interests to still feel like you’re "together".

About Dr. Debby Herbenick

Dr. Debby Herbenick

Dr. Debby Herbenick is a sex researcher at Indiana University, sexual health educator at The Kinsey Institute, columnist, and author of five books about sex and love. Learn more about her work at www.sexualhealth.indiana.edu.

  • http://www.ramahughes.com/ rama

    it’s like i said to christine last night, “This above all: to thine own self be true, but please watch Mr. Bean with me.”

  • http://www.ramahughes.com rama

    it’s like i said to christine last night, “This above all: to thine own self be true, but please watch Mr. Bean with me.”