Love is a battlefield?

"Love is helping someone through his battles." – Charles M. Schulz/Peanuts, from a worn 1979 copy of Love is… Walking Hand-in-Hand

Which means that love might be:

- supporting a partner deal with anxiety over work or school, or a sick parent
- helping a child deal with teasing or bullying at school
- being there for your mom or dad when they’re grieving or ailing or needing things fixed around the house
- letting yourself (yes, you should love yourself in this way too) take time to heal, or take time to forgive when you’ve been hurt
- letting your partner know that, even though you two are having bumps in the road right now, you’ll stick through this thing with them
- opening your home to a friend who is sad or in pain, or not sure where else to go
- volunteering in your community or your child’s school as they work through some growing pains and move toward their vision

How do you show your love? How do you support others (and yourself)?

About Dr. Debby Herbenick

Dr. Debby Herbenick

Dr. Debby Herbenick is a sex researcher at Indiana University, sexual health educator at The Kinsey Institute, columnist, and author of five books about sex and love. Learn more about her work at www.sexualhealth.indiana.edu.

  • Chris

    One of my key words in life comes up here…… “Listen”

    - “Listen” to help someone in need.

  • Chris

    One of my key words in life comes up here…… “Listen”

    - “Listen” to help someone in need.

  • Debby

    YES!!! Great addition to the list. Listening is an important way to be helpful and supportive. Often when partners or friends complain, our first instinct is to offer advice and to “fix it” (this is particularly true of many men, who have been raised to be caregivers/problem solvers). And yet often people just want to vent. They want to feel listened to and heard. Listening is an often underrated part of communication and am important skill to develop. Good for you for focusing on it in your own life.

  • Debby

    YES!!! Great addition to the list. Listening is an important way to be helpful and supportive. Often when partners or friends complain, our first instinct is to offer advice and to “fix it” (this is particularly true of many men, who have been raised to be caregivers/problem solvers). And yet often people just want to vent. They want to feel listened to and heard. Listening is an often underrated part of communication and am important skill to develop. Good for you for focusing on it in your own life.