What sex is really like

Thank you, R., for passing along this video, Business Time, that so clearly shows what sex is like for many couples… and not that it’s a bad thing! The idea of brushing teeth being part of foreplay made me laugh the most… that and the Team Building Exercise ’99 t-shirt.

Please, please watch this one… and know that if this is what your sex life is like, you’re like a lot of people. What is "normal" is NOT what you read about in a lot of magazines or see in movies. What is normal is two people who tend to have full lives that are made up of some combination of work, school, kids, aging parents, siblings, responsibilities, volunteer work, insecurities, and past experiences… and so sexuality and relationships are complex. Sex is not all bells and whistles. It is not all $300 sexy lingerie. It is not all chocolates, rose petals and engagement rings and professions of love or Pablo Neruda love sonnets. And that is OKAY!! If you need or want more from your partner or your relationship, it is okay to seek that out and ask for it and a book like Dr. Lonnie Barbach’s For Each Other may be a good place to start.

Otherwise, just enjoy the video and let me know what you think!! I love reading your comments.

 

About Dr. Debby Herbenick

Dr. Debby Herbenick

Dr. Debby Herbenick is a sex researcher at Indiana University, sexual health educator at The Kinsey Institute, columnist, and author of five books about sex and love. Learn more about her work at www.sexualhealth.indiana.edu.

  • http://www.ramahughes.com/ rama

    1) i love that you posted this on wednesday night, “the night that we usually make love.”

    2) if you do come to LA, we can watch some of their shows. this is one of their many great songs.

    3) here’s another one: http://youtube.com/watch?v=awUHtbUE0q8

  • http://www.ramahughes.com rama

    1) i love that you posted this on wednesday night, “the night that we usually make love.”

    2) if you do come to LA, we can watch some of their shows. this is one of their many great songs.

    3) here’s another one: http://youtube.com/watch?v=awUHtbUE0q8

  • Debby

    that was SUCH a great video… thanks for sending it :) i can’t wait to see more. still looking into tickets for the portrait party… if not then, then soon!

  • Debby

    that was SUCH a great video… thanks for sending it :) i can’t wait to see more. still looking into tickets for the portrait party… if not then, then soon!