I’ve been doing a lot of thinking and research around non-monogamy and polyamory lately, and wanted to share a few books and resources I’ve found.
First, I found this wonderful resource, which is akin to an FAQ for people who are considering polyamory. It’s written by Match.com, so I don’t know if there’s an ulterior motive, but it seems like a very useful resource for people who are questioning their mono-centric culture.
Next, my Facebook friend posted this fascinating visual representing the different types of non-monogamy. Because I appreciate visual representations of data, I really enjoyed thinking about all the different intersections that this explored. For those who are confused, it is really like a mutant Venn diagram with many different overlaps.
(Sidenote: who doesn’t love Venn diagrams? Here’s one of my favorites â€“ taking a jab at social media: )
In additions to these online resources, there are a number of great books that have been written on the subject. One of the stalwarts is The Ethical Slut.
I am planning on doing a review on this once grad school has released its chokehold on my mind and my time, but I will say that this book may not speak to the new generation of poly folk, due to the age of its authors, and those people who follow the “don’t trust anyone over 30″ mantra may want to seek one of the newer tomes.
One new book that has emerged in the past year is Sex at Dawn: The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality
This book looks at how far monogamy is from historical human nature, taking ideas from all sorts of different disciplines to look at why our species seems really bad at monogamy in general. What the authors bring up here is both thought-provoking and exciting.
I hope you find these resources helpful, and please share in the comments if you have any other resources you would like to share!
Images thanks to Wikimedia creative commons.