One year ago I began writing for MySexProfessor.com and since then, I’ve learned a lot. I thought I would write a little about the journey this year’s taken me on, so that readers can get a glimpse into the world of sex blogging.
For one thing, I’ve learned to only call it “sex blogging” when I want to get someone’s attention (as I shamelessly have done in the title of this post). This is partly because while yes, I write about sex, I write about lots of other topics too: gender roles, different cultures, feminist theory, pop culture & subculture news, and folklore. All of these things relate to sex, or else I wouldn’t be writing about them here, but saying that I only write about sex would be reductionistic. Also, I’ve learned that some people have a preconceived image in their minds about what a “sex blogger” does, and while I think it’s cool that some people occupy that corner of the internet, it’s not what I do, and I don’t want a potential audience member to dismiss my writing if they don’t understand what I mean at first.
My feminism informs a lot of what I write here, and how I approach it. Saying you’re a feminist isn’t necessarily going to win you friends and allies as a lot of people (still, sigh) think it’s all about man-hating and hairy armpits, so I’ve learned to explain what I do in other words, but then I make sure to explain how this is all a part of feminism and no it’s not as bad as you thought it was. The same thing applies here: I’ll say I write for a blog on gender, culture, and sexuality, in order to frame this as an intellectual, educational endeavor (which it certainly is) so that some people don’t get put off by having “sex” be the first word in the description. It’s unfortunate that some people are close-minded, and assume that anything that begins with “sex” or “feminism” is not relevant to them or falls into some negative stereotype, but until that changes, I have to work harder at communication, and that’s okay for now.
These are all things that I already knew, though. What really made the last year awesome was all the stuff I didn’t know about, and got to learn about on the job! Thanks to my fellow MSP bloggers, I learned about fascinating concepts like Non-Violent Communication, harm reduction, trends in pornography research, news on STI vaccines and other developments, information about alternative sexualities, and so on. There were simply too many informative posts for me to try to dig through and link to here. In communicating with my fellow MSP bloggers, I learned about their research methods, their passions, and their lives, which led to a wonderful feeling of community (as well as a friendly sense of compersion whenever anyone had good news to share).
I could keep listing things that I have enjoyed and learned over the last year, but I think you get the point. Participating in an open-minded research and educational community has been a truly wonderful experience, and I like to think that it’s benefited others, too, like if someone reads about a new topic and learns something that benefits them, or even just prods them to think about something in a new light. So, here’s to sex blogging!
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