I don’t watch much television, however in an afternoon of vegging out on the sofa, I did catch half of an episode of King of Queens in which one of Doug and Carrie’s guy friends may or may not have cheated on his wife. The women had very different definitions of "cheating" than did the men and Carrie was telling her dad, Arthur (played by Jerry Stiller) that she was angry at her husband presumably for both siding with his friend and for feeling differently about cheating than she did. Arthur pointed out to Carrie that she wasn’t angry at her husband, but she was scared that their marriage could fall apart too.
Oddly enough, I think this was a very good point. A friend of mine once said to me that he thought nearly all emotions stemmed from either fear or love. A friend of his felt that really everything stemmed from love (that even fear was fear of losing something that you loved). When I think of my own life and relationships, and the women and men I’ve worked with, I think these things are true. I think it’s good to be aware of this so that we can remember how much we love our partner or our relationship and how we can protect that.
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