Divorce Hotel

I may be tempted to give it a catchier name (Hotel Divorce-ifornia perhaps?), but in the Netherlands you and your soon to be ex-spouse can have a lovely stay in a hotel and a divorce in two days. I can tell you from personal experience that a dissolution or divorce (in America, it all depends on your state laws if there is even a difference) typically takes significantly more than two days. One of my favorite sites, Neatorama, posted about the Hotel Divorce a bit ago. In my state (Ohio), there is no waiting period to get married – you just apply for your marriage license and then you are good to go. I think the Hotel Divorce may have come in handy for Britney Spears when she had her very short wedding (the  one in Las Vegas). Speaking of Las Vegas, when I read about Hotel Divorce, I was a little surprised that it happens to be in the Netherlands and not Las Vegas (although I have no hate for the Netherlands – beautiful and fun place to visit).

While it does sound extremely easy and quick, it’s not fully official in those two days. As the article states, once the ink is dry on the paperwork, the couple will still need to show it to a judge to make it legal. In my experience, even a dissolution (which is touted as being quicker, cheaper, and “easier” – depending on how you define easy I guess – than a divorce) can take several months or even a year and be costly. 

Some relationships are easier to get over than others, and my only reservation (pun intended!) with Hotel Divorce is that some people may think that a quicker dissolving of their relationship means the hurt will be over in a shorter amount of time. For some people, a divorce may not cause a lot of pain and heartbreak. Also, sometimes the pain takes a little bit more time to kick in. While I can say that the main pain of my divorce is gone, there are still some days that it’s a little rough. However, (and I’m only speaking for myself here) this wasn’t the worst heartbreak of my life and I also feel that realizing my relationship was over hurt worse than the divorce process. A close friend of mine went through a divorce about a year ago, and this summer over drinks on a patio started to cry, seemingly out of nowhere. When carefully prodded she looked at me and said, “I just realized that I’m divorced. It just hit me.” She seemed to go through her divorce so calmly, and since this summer has started dealing with the end of her marriage.

If you were in this situation, would you give Hotel Divorce a stay? Do you think that there is any chance that this could become a chain?

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About Holly Moyseenko

Holly Moyseenko is a sex educator living in Ohio. She is an advocate of positive and healthy sexuality. Holly currently works for a non-profit health organization as a health educator, and also teaches workshops that focus on many topics within the realm of healthy sexuality. In her spare time, she also is an advocate for survivors of sexual assault, gardens, reads anything within reach, drinks copious amounts of tea, and naps with her two dogs.