Condom Monologues recently published an interview with sex educator Ashley Manta on consent, sex positivity, and other hot topics in the world of sex education. In it, she urges us to rethink the phrase “consent is sexy,” claiming that it’s an oversimplification:
Consent is not always sexy—sometimes it’s downright awkward. Having a conversation about boundaries, STI testing, and other pre-sex talking points can be incredibly difficult. That does not make it any less necessary. I think it’s important to let people know that these conversations can be challenging and that good sexual communication takes practice.
This is an excellent point. In the rush to get people on board with consent, making it sound sexy can raise interest but also obscure how complicated the real experience of discussing consent can be. Maybe “consent leads to stuff that’s potentially sexy” would be a more accurate (if longer) catch phrase.