What I Liked About Having Sex With You

If you’ve had sex with someone and enjoyed the experience, then this video is for you! Well, it’s really for them. But it all starts with you.

Here’s what to do:

1. Watch the video and pick out the numbers that correspond to what you liked about having sex with your partner.

2. Write the numbers down in an email to your partner.

3. Send your partner a link to the video along with the numbers.

4. Hit send.

So your email might look something like this:


“Hey there {insert name here},

You should really watch this video:


Oh, and for the record? I liked 4, 5, and 9. Especially 9.”


That’s just an example. Frankly, I don’t even remember what 4 and 9 are (though 5 does stick out in my head).

I hope you enjoy this little example of how technology can help to improve sex communication!


About Dr. Debby Herbenick

Dr. Debby Herbenick

Dr. Debby Herbenick is a sex researcher at Indiana University, sexual health educator at The Kinsey Institute, columnist, and author of five books about sex and love. Learn more about her work at www.sexualhealth.indiana.edu.

  • TheSpecialLadyFriend

    Thanks for this cool activity, Debby! I think it’s a really cool way for people to communicate with each other in a non-intimidating way like this. And for my partner and me, even though we’re very openly communicative about our sexual intimacy, it was a really cute thing to do together, and it put a smile on our faces. :)