Premature Ejaculation Common in Revolutionary Road

I’ve finally watched Revolutionary Road starring Kate Winslet and Leonardo DiCaprio and it struck me as interesting that the two sex scenes involving Kate-Leo and Kate-David Harbour both involved rapid ejaculation. I would guess that Leo’s character lasted fewer than 10 thrusts. David’s lasted approximately 15 thrusts in the car while drunk (hard to believe). So the rapid ejaculation (aka premature ejaculation) rate was 2 for 2 in the movie – 100%. Am I the only one that noticed this? Oh, and there was no orgasm for Kate Winslet’s character (if only they had brought out a vibrator to treat her for “hysteria”). 

In real life, about 1/4 to 1/3 of men would like to last longer than they do in terms of the timing of their ejaculation. A small percentage of men have the opposite issue and find it difficult, if not impossible, to ejaculate during sex (delayed ejaculation and inhibited ejaculation, respectively). Both extremes are problems for some men and their partners and a pleasure for others; it’s all in what you make of it, really.

It seems that quite a lot of Hollywood characters come quickly – oh, and also the women are almost invariably satisfied the moment their male partner’s penis gets inside of them. There’s always that “ooh” or “aah” or a facial expression of such satisfaction that it’s quite clear, even though no naked parts are shown, what is happening just then. It’s almost as if they are saying “ooh, there’s that yummy penis” even though we never see the women looking at the penis or grabbing it and putting it inside of them. Instead, it always happens so  magically.

Between the non-reality that is Hollywood movies and the other fake world of porn, it’s no wonder that so many people aren’t quite sure how to make sex happen pleasurably and in ways that work for them or their partner. Men who would like to learn how to control the timing of their ejaculation so that they can last longer might be interested in my brief comments on the matter for starters and The New Male Sexuality for more detailed information. Women who are interested in learning the ins and outs of sex, how to make it more pleasurable, and how to find more things exciting than initial entry – and maybe even how to orgasm (yes, even if all you get is a few thrusts) – might find it helpful to read Because It Feels Good.

About Dr. Debby Herbenick

Dr. Debby Herbenick

Dr. Debby Herbenick is a sex researcher at Indiana University, sexual health educator at The Kinsey Institute, columnist, and author of five books about sex and love. Learn more about her work at www.sexualhealth.indiana.edu.

  • stephanieslocum

    wow. nice post. thanks for bringing up the issue on premature ejaculation, which is one of the most common sexual problems, undeniably.

  • hannah

    I thought the exact things when watching that movie! “Where's her orgasm?” “Why does he get to come so fast?” “Neither sex scenes seemed great to her!”

  • Fakedyfake

    In
    a way I envied the guy in the car who basically jazzed instantly.  I was like, “whoa…. I wonder what it would be
    like to be so horny that you explode the second your penis touches a vagina”.  And he did it instantly, on her command mind
    you, in a very awkward and crammed space in a car.  Really, they’re both fully clothed, and she’s like, “do me now”  And he’s like, Ok…. hard… insert… DONE!  That is some stealthy fucking man.  I also envied him a bit because I have
    always felt tremendous pressure to last like a billion years in sex, and it
    would be nice if it weren’t necessary to please her.  I thought, “why did she even bother screwing him if it only
    lasted 3 seconds?”  But I guess it was a
    psychological thing for her, not even really about sex that is actually
    good.  And I guess I shouldn’t envy
    him.  The sex ended with her crying
    anyway.