I’ve finally watched Revolutionary Road starring Kate Winslet and Leonardo DiCaprio and it struck me as interesting that the two sex scenes involving Kate-Leo and Kate-David Harbour both involved rapid ejaculation. I would guess that Leo’s character lasted fewer than 10 thrusts. David’s lasted approximately 15 thrusts in the car while drunk (hard to believe). So the rapid ejaculation (aka premature ejaculation) rate was 2 for 2 in the movie – 100%. Am I the only one that noticed this? Oh, and there was no orgasm for Kate Winslet’s character (if only they had brought out a vibrator to treat her for “hysteria”).
In real life, about 1/4 to 1/3 of men would like to last longer than they do in terms of the timing of their ejaculation. A small percentage of men have the opposite issue and find it difficult, if not impossible, to ejaculate during sex (delayed ejaculation and inhibited ejaculation, respectively). Both extremes are problems for some men and their partners and a pleasure for others; it’s all in what you make of it, really.
It seems that quite a lot of Hollywood characters come quickly – oh, and also the women are almost invariably satisfied the moment their male partner’s penis gets inside of them. There’s always that “ooh” or “aah” or a facial expression of such satisfaction that it’s quite clear, even though no naked parts are shown, what is happening just then. It’s almost as if they are saying “ooh, there’s that yummy penis” even though we never see the women looking at the penis or grabbing it and putting it inside of them. Instead, it always happens so magically.
Between the non-reality that is Hollywood movies and the other fake world of porn, it’s no wonder that so many people aren’t quite sure how to make sex happen pleasurably and in ways that work for them or their partner. Men who would like to learn how to control the timing of their ejaculation so that they can last longer might be interested in my brief comments on the matter for starters and The New Male Sexuality for more detailed information. Women who are interested in learning the ins and outs of sex, how to make it more pleasurable, and how to find more things exciting than initial entry – and maybe even how to orgasm (yes, even if all you get is a few thrusts) – might find it helpful to read Because It Feels Good.
